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How can I/should I overcome my addiction to being single?

I’m 19years old and female and I have been single most of my teenage life. I had a couple of small relationships when I was 15 then didn’t have my next one till I was 18 (though not for lack of trying at some points) that was a flop as I hated giving up my freedom and having to make compromises and act a certain way, that lasted little over a month and I have been single ever since (about a year). I absolutely love single life, I love being able to flirt without guilt, spend my time however I like, hang out with my friends a lot etc. My problem is that I haven’t had sex and I’m getting quite scared that by the time I meet someone that is worth giving up my single life for it might be years from now?? I want to do it but I’m not willing to go with any guy, I need trust and understanding. I’ll be 20 this year and I grow more and more terrified about the whole sex thing as the social pressures grow larger and I grow older and more afraid. Is anyone able to offer any words of comfort for a future cat lady? Thanks.

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Answer #1

enjoy being single if it makes you happy - you are still young so you do have plenty more time for ‘serious’ relationships. when you do find the right guy (and you will) he will most likely love the fact that you are a virgin - and if he is someone you have waited to find then it will be extra special when you do finally do it.

Answer #2

Your words of wisdom have comforted me, Thanks everyone :)

Answer #3

I don’t think y’all should worry about being a virgin. When you find the right guy, everything will work out. He won’t hold it against you and you will like that you are able to give that piece of yourself to him. I waited until my now husband and I were engaged and we knew we were going to get married, the wedding was already set. Then I gave myself to him as a birthday present the year before we got married. I was very glad I waited for him. He was the first guy I trusted (I’ve had a rough background with guys, was molested when I was little). I wouldn’t change the fact that I waited for him.

Answer #4

well if going out with guys dont seem right at the moment then you obviously ain’t met the right guy yet, when he comes you’ll know hope it helps C@LLUM

Answer #5

dude, we’ve the same concern. and im older than you waahhh :| im afraid I dont know the answer. if I knew, I would certainly tell you.

well, for comfort’s sake, at least you’re not alone in this.

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