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I have been with my significant other for Seven years now and we have four kids together. Well I have caught him lying to me a few times lately and now i question every thing he has ever told me, ever excuse He's ever given. I feel like our whole relationship is a lie. I don't have solid proof of his lies, he send s his cell phone bill to his mothers, and keeps his incomming and out going calls deleted, But one day i did catch him before he delete a call from a woman he said he wasn't talking to anymore and i called him on it and he said the number was a guy buddy from work . So the next day when he went to work i called her and she answered and i hung up. i want to know if they have slept together but how can i get proof
Anyone who gets their phone bill sent to their mothers is hiding something. Originally my partner kept his phone on silent, didn't answer calls in front of me. I was hurt and i told him to stop it. I had some gut instincts, confronted him and now i can answer his phone if it rings. He knows he nearly lost me over it. And yes, i do believe he was hiding something from me but it was earlier on in our relationship. He now lives with me, we are moving to a new town in to a new home and he's told me he loves me. My confrontation could have ended it all but he realised what he was going to lose.
You can't live like this, he needs confronting. He is acting like a man with something to hide. You may not like his answer but at least you won't be with a man who's lying and cheating on you. Better to be happy alone then unhappy together. Either way it will be a weight of your mind. You deserve better.
Good Luck.
Well I have to agree with the girls on this one. It really sounds suspicious to have his phone bill sent to his mothers house. But if you want proof and you think this one girl might have been with him I would suggest that you just call her back and ask her. What can it hurt? I can tell you for a fact that if my wife found a phone number of some girl she thought I was seeing, she would be calling that girl in a New York heartbeat. Maybe even going to her house and having it out with her. You can get the persons address if you have the phone number but if you don't want that kind of confrontation you'd better stick with calling her. But you have to decide what to do with your life. You have four kids by this guy and you're about 26 y/o, so do you really want to lose him and be on your own? It's a big decision! Think it over thoroughly. Wishing the best for you.
Dear edgeofreason7817, Why are you looking for proof he slept with this woman? He deletes his calls, he has his bills sent to his mothers...this is not normal behaviour. Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. Are you afraid to ask him or ask his if he cheating or are you afraid of the answer? I suggest you make an appointment with a counsellor so you can discuss your fears and ways to deal with them. If he admits to his infidelity you will definitely need to speak with someone about it all. So forget about the proof and trust your instincts...it is time to ask some questions. Sue...good luck
You can hire a P.I.
