Help...in love with my best friend...

Oh wow. I’m sorry. You’re in my old situation. I was in love with my best friend, but he lived about 5 hours away for most of that friendship. He only stayed summers in my city. We were attracted to each other, and we fooled around a few times, but it took me six years to have sex with him. By then it was too late, and things couldn’t go any further for us. We hardly talk now at all. I suppose that the only thing I can really tell you is to just be there for her. If she calls you with her problems before anyone else, that is a good sign. If you are the main guy that she confides everything in, you have a chance of turning this in to more. A girl will generally only want comfort from one guy. At least I did. See even when I was in serious relationships, I always called my best friend, because he was my everything. Don’t get me wrong, I loved the person I was in the relationship with, but I was in love with my best friend. Believe me, I feel your pain!!! It is the worst torture in the world to be in the “friend box” when you want to be in the significant other role. However, the way I saw it then was that I’d rather just have him in my life as a friend than to push a relationship and possibly lose him forever. I loved him enough to torture myself with only friendship just to be close to him. Tragic, I know. Back to you though because guys hate the mushy stuff =). My advice to you is to put yourself in situations with her where things could progress. Invite her out to dinner and you pay, but don’t call it a date. If she needs a date to an event, then offer to go with her. Do little things for her that show you care without going too overboard. When you know she’s having a hard day, bring her something that you know she loves like her favorite candy. Make those little gestures that show her that you are there when she needs you. Show her that no one knows her better than you, and really put yourself out there for her. I’m not saying that it will end the way you want it to…you could put all this effort in and get heartbroken, or it could take years for her to realize that she loves you. What I’m trying to say is that the “what ifs” will kill you if you don’t do everything in your power to make the most of what you have with her. Things will progress how they must, but you should do all you can either way. Good luck, and let me know how it goes! If you need any suggestion on nice things to do for her, just send me some mail, and I’ll help you out.