Confusion about boys

Ok so… There is this guy… His birthday was today. Well he asked me out and I knew it was coming, and I told myself that I didnt love him, but I could learn to right? And well he asked me out, and I said yes. He is the most sweetest guy ever, sweet cute, he has got everything anyone wants in a guy, and yet there is just something that I… Well I dont know. You see I thought I could learn to love him? And well even though we have been only going out for two hours… So much has crossed my mind. I know he loves me so much! But the thing is, I wonder if im ready for this type of relationship again. Ok, I may seem ridiculous but its truth so here it is. I well, loved this guy named justin, we dated for 4 months and 2 days, I know doesnt seem long, but I loved him from the start, I swore he was the perfect guy for me, and that I would one day marry him, and we would just be so happy together. Well, we broke up august 4, 2007, its not april 27,2008, a normal person would be over them by now, but im not!!! And its seems wrong to be in a relationship, but I have an issue with saying no to people and especially cause it was his birthday… So I need some major advice, I feel positively horrible about breaking up with this amazing guy chris who is head over heels in love with me. But how can I carry on with a fake relationship… I hurt him once before this way… But I think that maybe justin still has feelings for me… And well I dont know if he does, but I guess I hope he does. adn well justin is kinda suicidal but the thing is, is that I think being in a relationship with chris is pulling me away from a frienship with justin. And I do know for a fact that justin has my heart… But here is the other catch… You thought that was bad, ugh!, well my best friend is in love with justin, and I do believe so, that I am. I have tried for months to get over justin, but it doesnt seem possible. You know I think that justin may still have feelings for me, but would never date me again, because his friend chris, loves me, and well I dont know if I could date justin cause my best friend loves him. Its all so confusing and blah… I really want some advice, I think I would def rather have a friendship with justin, then date chris, adn I know that if in the middle of like a 2 year relationship with chris, fig. Speaking, that if justin wanted me back, I would go running back. I think and feel that chris deserves better, but he doesnt feel that way. And I just dont know what to do… Def. Need some advice, and I need it soon…

Some one help!!!

Answer #1

STOP WANTING LOVE!!!your SO YOUNG…NOT EVERYRELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE HAS TO BE LOVE…AND THE PAST ONES PROBABLY HAVENT BEEN…I KNOW YOU FEEL ITS LOVE…AND ITS PROBABLY THE STRONGEST UVE EVER FELT ABOUT EVERYTHING…BUT ITS NOT LOVE…IF IT WAS…YOU WOULDNT BE HAVING THIS PROBLEM…UD STILL BE WITH THE FIRST GUY…SO ALTHOUGH YOU MAY VARE FOR HIM MORE THAN YOU HAVE anyone ELSE…ITS NOT LOVE,DONT TIE YOURSELF DOWN WITH AN IMAGINARY RELAtionship.go out with this chris guy,and if it dosent work out no harm done…but you can at least give it a try right?good luck -v-

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