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He tried raping me.

k so im not sure what to do about this, about 6 months ago I was in edmonton staying @ my sisters house && I went to hang out with a friend who was and still is dating my cousin, and me and my cousin were pretty close she knew I was hanging out with him and everything and we went to his house so we could warm up and I was tired and wanted to go home he told me to sleep over at his house and leave in the morning well my sister said I only had a couple hours so I told him no and he kept saying yes he then grabbed me and started kissing me and I tried stopping him but I couldnt he tried to undress me and etc etc… I then said enough finally and got up and got ready to leave when he went to the bathroom and I then told him I didnt know my way back home but I would go by myself. and he tried pushing back down on his bed grabbing my wrists. I didnt know what to do I was scared and wanted to go home I then a couple weeks later told my cousin what her boyfriend had tried to do and she didnt believe. and they keep texting me bringing it up I was scared then but now my boyfriend thinks I should charge him for attempted rape and sexual assault. what should I do. ???

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Answer #1

Definitely.. he was forcing himself on you against your will and consent.

Answer #2

First of all, six months is too long to wait. Still, the texting and harassment is still going on, so:

  1. Write down everything that occured that night. Date and sign it.
  2. Document every text that the guy sends you. You should write down the exact words of the text, the date, the time.
  3. Document every phone call that the guy makes to you. Write down as close as possible what he says, the date, the time. Try not to stay on the phone with him. If you do, he is likely to victimize you more.
  4. Once you have some documentation, go to the local RCMP with it, and talk to an officer, preferabley a sex crimes specialist.
  5. Even if they are unable to do much, you will have started a paper trail. Continue to document any related incidents - that is - contact from the guy. You can document contact from others about the incident, as well, but that is not as important.
  6. Even if the RCMP aren’t able to do something right away, if you keep documenting and keep checking with them, something will eventually happen. Be aware that if the guy is charged, you will probably have to be a witness in court.

Good luck!

Answer #3

I know you posted this a while back but I felt like I needed to comment. in any harrassment or rape case you have up to 7 years to report it. so you could still get his a** thrown in prison if you wanted to.

Answer #4

I think you should talk to this creep and tell him to back the f*ck off you should get a restraining order

Answer #5

well like its been awhile will they even do anything, but then again he still keeps texting me,

Answer #6

Yea you should!

Answer #7

Lock all the txts he sends you and reply saying “leave me alone i want nothing to do with you, ill turn you in” or something like that. Dont argue your point by saying things like “your wrong for what you did “ or anything. Be assertive and discontinue texting him afterward. However if he continues to text u, lock them as i said and turn them in to a police station everytime. Eventually after you build up enough complaints and files, they will issue him a protective order.

Answer #8

Lock all the txts he sends you and reply saying “leave me alone i want nothing to do with you, ill turn you in” or something like that. Dont argue your point by saying things like “your wrong for what you did “ or anything. Be assertive and discontinue texting him afterward. However if he continues to text u, lock them as i said and turn them in to a police station everytime. Eventually after you build up enough complaints and files, they will issue him a protective order. My sister went through the same thing

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