Background- Matt and I met in november of 08. We became "good/best friends". Everyone thought we were together, but we didn't make of offical until feburary of 09. I fell inlove with him before we even started to date. He would stay over until I fell asleep and would be over first thing in the morning.
Now- We are together and he stays the night a lot. We act like we are married and most people think we are when we are in public. Older women are like, "aww I remember when I was her age, young love..." and ect. I still love this man to death...
Problem-
We have "broken up" twice since we been together. The break ups didn't even last a full 24 hours. The first time we broke up he said we need time apart because of my attitude. The second time we broke up... These are the reasons I heard.. From him and other people. He says, "I am fed up with your attitude. You never want to talk to me about anything that you keep bottle up." he sent this text to his mom while I was sleeping. "I am fed up with this, she sleeps with the fan on and the window open. Her dogs come in and out of her room and sometimes jump on her bed!! I can't handle this anymore." and his best friends girlfriend sent me a message telling me what he told her. "he says that you are to touchy and feely... Always have your hands on him or cuddling next time him. And always wanting to have sex."
Both times, not even 24hours after breaking up with me, he sends me a text telling me he misses me and that it was a mistake that he broke up with and he wants to work things out.
He comes over and we talk about what we did when we weren't around each other. Which is a really boring convo. Then we talk about our trucks and then how much we need to talk more about how we feel and not to bottle things up and so on.
I need to know... Is this relationship worth keep going back to? I love him to death, and he says he loves me... His family tells me they only hear good about me and it seems like I have a good heart. My family adores him and thinks he is the best thing that has happen to me. But should I change the way I am, to make this work. I don't talk about what is bothering me to anyone but my therapiest. I am not good at talking face to face to someone. I have never been good at that kind of stuff... When I do try to talk about it, it seems like he isn't listening or I don't make sense.
What should I do
I think you two should have a night where you just sit down and tell eachother what you truly think. Discuss your flaws and your good qualities. Then ask him about those texts. If he really thinks you should change then I would get rid of him. You should never change yourself for your guy. He should love you for who you are. If he doesn't, then he's not worth keeping around. Hope this helped
I would sit down together and talk to each other what bothers him about you and work on them. And you tell him what he needs to work on.
