i understand everyone has to but for me im so scared to... and i just dont know how to get past it... as a child my dad has protected me soooo much like i was usually home cause he worked alot and even when he was home he dident want me really going anywere and im not use to doing anything alone cause my dad either had my brother with me or my friends.. so just something simple is so hard for me.... like going any were alone i hate being alone..... and its hard for me to even think about getting a job like i just feel like id mess up or id say something stuiped at a job interview since im not really that smart and since i always seem to say the wrong thing... and its like i wanna go to college but the thought of just going there alone and talking to them or applying just scares me...
Become financially independent. It will be difficult because parents have a natural instinct to provide for us. Just politely decline when they offer financial help. It is tempting to depend on others financially, but before you experience independence, you must be independent. Start on a career path. Experiment with different careers and find the one that you enjoy most. If you are a change maker then start a socially responsible business. If you like kids, be a teacher. If you like being an expert, be a lawyer, professor or consultant. If you enjoy talking to people, be a salesperson or go into the services industry. The majority of students end up in careers unrelated to their major. Some people do not get far in formal education and end up millionaires. Working in a career that you enjoy is a part of becoming a mature person.
2Become emotionally independent. Chances are, you depend on many people for emotional support. It may be your parents, a boy or girl friend, or good close friends. Although it is possible to continue to depend on these people for the rest of your life, it is in your best interest to realize that everyone in your life that you depend on will one day no longer be around. Some will move away, some will stop talking to you, and they all will eventually die. The only person that who will always be with you is you. If you depend on yourself for support, you will never be let down.
3Stop being selfish (if you are not selfish, skip to the next step). Up until now, you have been given a lot of stuff unconditionally. No matter how badly you perform, your parents, friends and our high school significant others are proud of you and support you. No matter how much you yell at them, they always come back. They give without expecting anything in return. You may start to realize that the real world does not work that way. Now you must give before you can receive. You must treat your friends and romantic interests well or else they will not want to see you any more.
4Stop being a doormat (if you are selfish, skip this step). Up until this point, you always had plenty of friends. You give unconditionally. When they need someone to talk to, you were always there. When they needed something, you always helped out. When they made mistakes, you were always willing to forgive and forget. You do these things because you care. You may start to realize that your old technique of giving unconditionally does not work any more. You must start expecting a certain amount in return for all that you do. Otherwise, some people will take advantage of you and some might feel sorry for you and not want to be around you, some will, but many won't.
5Realize that life isn't fair. Just because you deserve something does not mean you will get it. You may be the perfect student, yet your professor may still fail you. You may be the perfect employee, yet your boss may never promote you. You may be the perfect spouse, yet your partner may still leave you. Realize and accept these things as a fact of life. Keep your goals in sight, stay happy, and do not let the unfairness of life demoralize you. Life is hard and everyone else has had to overcome obstacles, why can't you seem to figure it out?
6Mean what you say and say what you mean. You will have a very hard time in life if people can't believe what comes out of your mouth. "Your Word" should always be backed up by "Your Actions" so if you don't plan on doing something then don't say that you will.
7Treat people with respect. Treat people the way you want to be treated. If you don't have respect for others, they will most likely lose the respect they have for you. It may not always come back to you but you will get a lot farther in life and be much happier.
8Take responsibility for yourself. If you make a mistake, own up to it and learn from it. Hiding it or blaming it on someone else is another sign that you have not grown up yet. If you choose to do something that results in bad consequences, don't try to say it was someone else's fault. When you do something that results in good consequences, you won't want to blame someone else then will you? You are your own person and make your own choices. Other people can influence your choice but in the end it is still YOUR choice and YOUR consequence, good or bad. www.cusabio.com/ antibody drug
9Plan for the future of your parents/siblings. While it's okay if you need to move back into your parents home when young, as long as you're not a hindrance or if your parents are not in good health, but a crutch isn't permanent. Don't worry your time will come to take care of them completely, even if you need help now.
You sound just like me a couple years ago. I would have panic attacks and I would just cry because I was so scared of finding a job, going to college, and just the idea of having to do things on my own. It's a scary thought! I would also put myself down because I felt like all my friends knew how to do everything already and they were all smarter than me because I felt so stupid... :/
But after going to college and getting a job I realized it was all in my head and it wasn't that hard at all. Of course you're going to make mistakes at a new job (trust me, I've made many), but as long as you learn and progress, it's okay! Making mistakes is how you learn. I've said some pretty dumb things in interviews because I was so nervous, but it never stopped me from getting a job.
Don't worry so much about becoming independent, it's something that will just happen over time. Just understand that almost everything you're worrying about probably won't even happen. You are smart and you are capable of becoming independent so don't put yourself down. Just don't hold yourself back from doing the things you want to do, you'll be fine!
Hey, don't put yourself down. I'm going through the same thing, and I have found that if I just try to not really focus on what is going on around me, and just on the task at hand, I do just fine. Try to slowly work more on your own, and ask your dad for a little more freedom.
Maybe try the Youtube channel "How to Adult" to learn some practical life skills. The website
"Greatist" also allows a lot of good advice for emotional growth.
kk i shall try thanks for the advice (:
thank you that helps alot