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My girl and i were at a party about 2 days ago and about half way through the night i lost her and i couldn't find her. I didn't think much at first because i thought she had just gone off with her girlfriends. But about an hour or so went by and her friends had came back but she was still gone. So i started to worry and went looking for her, and 2 and a half hours later I got a call from her saying she was at home, that she got a taxi and went home. So i went home straight away and when i saw her my stomached just dropped! She had a bruised eye and a cut lip. I asked her about it and she said she walked into the door at the party so she went home. But the next day i noticed that she couldn't move properly, she eventually told me she had some sore ribs from walking into the door.
My girl is suffering from anorexia and she isn't well. Her bones are very brittle and her body is weak.
I DONT BELIEVE SHE WALKED INTO THE DOOR!
I am worried something bad happened to her at the party. I am scared someone hurt her or worse! She is acting very weird around me and she couldnt have hurt herself that badly from walking into a door!
I asked her about it and she said thats all that happened, she ran into the door! I am so worried about her and i dont know what to do. PLEASE, I NEED ADVICE!!
I can't go to the police because she said nothing happened. I know she didn't walk into a door. She is acting very very dfferent. She doesn't drink alcohol, not even a little bit. She isn't a girl to get into a fight with someone. She is being very different, she won't let me touch her, she doesn't want to leave the house. I know her and I know something is wrong. I asked her to let me take her to the hospital because of her ribs and I need to make there is no other internal damage, but she quickly shoots it down and says no no no, I'm fine they don't need to get involved!!
I'm very worried that what had happened is going to make her anorexia all that much worse, that she is going to punish her body even more! I don't want to push her, but I can't just let this go! I don't know what to do!!
The first thing you need to do is sit down with her and ask her what happened. When she tells you "i ran into a door" tell her calmly that you do not believe her and that are are worried something else occurred. Always listen and be patient, normally when someone has been raped or physically abused their first reaction is to hide it or to just not mention it. If she admits that something else occurred, the first thing you need to let her know is that you are there for her and that you want to help her. Do not force her into telling you anything, just wait until she is comfortable enough to say it.
And you never know, she just might have walked into that door.
talk to her, and if something happens then she needs to report it to the police if she was drinking a lot, all of those things could be as a result of being drunk, which causes people to be clumsy enough to walk into things, and could even cause them to get into fights with people for saying things they otherwise wouldnt be saying. unfortunately unless you know for sure what happened, and have proof/evidence, you can't do anything about it.. just talk to her, comfort her, and try to get as much out of her as you can, BUT don't force her. if she cant, or doesnt want to tell you, that is her right. be gentle, good luck. message me if you need more help!
Don't do anything for right now..... Be supportive and with lots of time and trust she will tell you. Don't be irrashinale and call the cops, that will only make her feel like she cant trust you and you dont trust her. Just let her know everything's all right..Try no to push the situation. I know its scary but it's going to take time.....And when she comes foward you need to go to the police...Hope I Helped..and Good Luck!
There's nuthin u can do ut be there for her and be understandin. And if she need someone 2 cry on let her cry on u! Also do bring it unless she wants to talk to about it!! And NEVER rush her into sex! And let her know the way u trust her is no different than b4!! And if you know or she know who did it call the cops!! Wish you best of luck and I hopw she is ok!!:/
ii kno how u feel all the way but u just gotta give her cuz she is hurt tell her u just want her to be ok and ur there if she need someone 2 talk 2 just give her time sweetheart
Get help, call the police and report what happened and give them details about everything. And also try to get your girlfriend proffecional help to help her deal with this.
let her knowv tht yu love her so she wont feel alone i wish u the best luck!
seriously tell the police like now.
Report it to the police.
