Why does my gf act like I'm wrong for not wanting her to talk to an ex who's still in love with her?

Maybe your gf still has feelings for this person but just doesn’t want to admit it. I think you guys should sit down and talk. Express to her why you don’t want her talking to an ex and listen to what she has to say as well.

She doesn’t see the problem through your eyes - only her own. I think any normal person would feel a little intimidated if they were in this situation, and somehow she’s blind to that. The question is, how does she feel about her ex? Is she willing to end all ties with her ex to make things better with you, or are you the one who will get the boot if you put out an ultimatum? If this situation is causing you that much grief, you may have to put your foot down and say “it’s her or me”. You might not win, but if she doesn’t choose you, then she wasn’t yours anyways.

My last gf cheated on me and it was bad I still have emotional scars from it so I get jealous but she talks to evry ex almost and they txt her &’ she said there her friends which I respect but with all this trying to kiss her and still in love I can’t help but nt wanting her to tlk to them…

you need to tell her how you feel. Like Colleen says, she is looking at this through her eyes not yours. If she loves you, she will see that what she is doing is hurting you and that she needs to stop

She said shed stop txting and hanqun w/ her ex or w.e. Bt was upset tht I made her choose btwn us two

Ah, your ex is a female. This makes things a little different. Lesbians tend to stay friends with the ex-girlfriends. I can understand why she would be a little upset with you making her choose. It’s a cultural difference that doesnt translate within the heterosexual world (which is perhaps why a lot of people here dont get where she’s coming from). I’m not trying to put down your feelings of insecurity or your point of view. I’m just saying, things are not black and white. And yes, you have a point of view. But what about her point of view? I’d be careful in setting down too many ultimatums. She loves you and so she has acquiesced, but do you really want to continuously use that as a weapon? You have to learn to trust her if this is going to work.

It’s fine.

uhm? ok?

Yea…..smh