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Gender identity problems?

First of all, I’m not a lesbian. Sure, I admire pretty girls now and then; but I also do the same for handsome guys. Also, I’ve never been in a relationship with a girl either. I accept my sexuality and I also once developed a crush on a guy friend.

However, recently (for the past year or so), I’ve taken a liking to guy clothes (baggy pants, chains, polos, etc.). I also admit to be guilty of photoshopping some individual pictures to make me a guy (adding a shadow, making chin angular, adding thicker eyebrows - the works). Also, there have been times when I anonymously text/chat, posing as a guy.

Sometimes it seems as if I’m living another life - one wherein I’m a male rather than a female.

So far, I haven’t really had any disappointment in my face, or body. I grew up in a normal family and haven’t had any traumatic experience. I am not in love with girls, but I also am not in love with guys.

Am I sick? Do I need a psychiatrist? Help! Thanks.

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Answer #1

Ethmer, she’s not discussing her sexuality, but her gender… there is a difference…

You’re not sick. And I may be slightly biased here, but it’s not only “sick’” (whatever the hell that means) people who need psychiatrists (or any other sort of mental health care).

If you have been questioning your gender identity, there’s nothing wrong with that. You seem to have grown up with the misperception that it’s people who’ve had messed up lives who grow up to be homosexual or transgender. If only that were true life would be so simple… We could explain any “abnormality” as being caused by kids who just didnt lead “normal” lives… Too bad it isnt that simple… The normal people in this world who wish everyone else would just follow their norms simply cannot figure it out…

Look, if you have been thinking about it, maybe you should explore it a little bit. Maybe you are, maybe you just dont like society’s idiotic way of putting people into tiny little boxes… either way it’s not a bad thing…

Answer #2

You’re only 17. It is normal to be insecure about your sexuality while you are young. As time goes by and you have more associations with both males and females, you will eventually find your place.

No matter what happens, just be true TO YOURSELF.

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Answer #3

First of all, no I don’t think you are sick. Your gender is determined as a fetus and is a very complicated process, leaving little room for error. If not everything goes according to plan, the gendermap (google gender identity disorder) is not fully imprinted to become either sex. Also, it may just be a phase or something you think about occasionally. As long as it’s not interfering with your daily life in a way that you can think of little else or are severely depressed and unhappy as your current gender, I don’t think you need a psychiatrist either, but if you think talking to someone would help, then do it. Whatever you decide, be comfortable in your own skin. Best of luck!

Answer #4

same here, except im 13

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