My aunt has issues I think going back to her childhood when she was given to relatives to look after when my grandmum was ill. Unfortunately, she was the only 1 of her 6 children to have done so. Since then she's had issues with not being part of the family. She married a foreigner and stays in a different country.
Unfortunately, l happen to live near her and whenever I visit her, I'm made to feel that I don't see her often enough etc. She often shows a scowling face and on my last visit raised her hand in the air indicating that she wanted to hit me for not visiting her for awhile. I'm totally fed up with her attitude and tend to avoid seeing her like the plague. Unfortunately, my parents are always asking me to go spend time with her.
This is the time to get your voice. You must make it clear to your aunt that if she continues to be negative during your visits you will not visit again. The next visit when she shows negativity you tell her perhaps you'll come back when she's feeling more positive. Do not visit for a while. Repeat the process if necessary. Never getting angry or upset but always just leave quietly stating you'll be back some other time. Let your parents know your plan also. This may take several visits but mark my word it will work and as long as she believes you will not visit an angry aunt she will be positive when you visit.
Aloha brit2 ,
I would say confront her on your feelings and what is going on...and always forgive her..show her endless love and mercy and she'll come around...always let her know how you are feeling and that although it is hurrtting you, you still love her and forgive her..tell her you want to visit but it really upsets you and hurts you when she is so cold hearted and what not.
Best wishes to the both of you may you come to a common understanding of eachother.
Try to make her happy.It may helps.^^ All the best!