I dated a guy a bit over a year ago. We really really liked each other, but it ended badly.
Over the last three months or so we've become really close. We tell each other pretty much everything.
Everyone around us thinks that we're perfect for each other... And i think i love him. I can talk to him for hours and not run out of things to say. Last night he told me that he really liked me and wanted to try to make it work. But i don't know what to do. I love him... But im afraid its gonna be awkward if we start dating. And what if we broke up and not only would i lose him as a boyfriend, but i'd also lose him as a very close friend.
Do u think it would work out better if we didn't really label it as dating and were kinda a closer version of friends with benefits??
Awww to be 16. Listen it is the most horrible idea to tell a guy just to be friends with benefits. He is trying to respect you by telling you he wants a relationship and you in return will tell him, "oh let's just be friends w/ benefits"??? That is opening a door in to letting him do with you what ever he wants and if you see him with someone else??? Then what? You can't say anything because technically you are not his gf! BAD IDEA!!! ACTUALLY WORST IDEA! It will end up bad for YOU! Give yourself and him a little credit and have the respect and the position you deserve. Nothing in this world has been gained with out taking risks.
Being good friends, and letting it morph into a relationship is a great way of having "it all" in that relationship. So many couples these days, forget all about the importance of friendship in a relationship. How bout not calling it anything...not labeling it...and let it morph on it's own? The relationship will happen if it's meant to be....I married my best friend...we spent two years, just hanging out together, doing stuff...and talking a LOT...we truly knew each other when the relationship morph'd.
Personally I think that being 'friends with benefits' is a terrible idea. It is very demeaning to each of you and you are both practically being used by each other to fulfill sexual expectations. I think that if you have this kind of an emotional connection with somebody you should either stay as good friends, or start dating. If you really loved him, you wouldn't be open to this kind of relationship. It will just end in tears for the both of you.
..... you have a friends but things between you... you guys just don't want to date each other so you settle for a physical one if you're BFF's but you don't want to break up your friendship over something like that