Friend jealousy

I know exactly how you’re feeling (read my question related to relationships). Most young males are amazingly influenced by what they see around them (video women, magazines, television, entertainment etc.) as well as we female are influenced by what we see. Must you not admit that the boys that you are liking in your life have distinct characteristics to them able to be compared to what you’ve seen on television, and in movies (male celebrities), so if you hear a boy you like or just any ‘ol guy talking about a girl in school with certain specific characteristics to her (chest, hair etc.) that he likes, do not be surprised. The boys that you like are only interested in your best friend becuase she resembles traits of women they’ve seen either in movies or again, in television entertainment. Since your friend likes to wear popular fashions, this only more resembles the female traits which guys find overly attractive. In order for you to not feel shadowed by your best friends ‘growing body’, is to (me being not an expert but I’d know they’d say this too) be and act yourself. But you must be social becuase this will help you make more male friends. This must be what your friend is doing (being social-‘flirting). Not that you have to flirt, but just make a conversation with the boy you like and you’d see more of his personality. I know that you do not like Abercromie, but in order for you to stand out (so the boys that you like will be more interested in you), is to be more ‘creative’. Wear the bracelets and necklaces you find appealing. It would be a good idea for you and your friend to get together and plan a day together where you can go shopping. Not only will this benefit your friendship, but this will benefit your social life as your b.f.f can help you pick out the clothes you like (hopefully she will not mind if you say you do not like something). Sorry this had to be a book long but I just wanted to help you out since I’ve experienced this before.

Jealousy is NEVER gonna make you prettier, remember that. I know how you feel, though. I used to be like that, I used to always compare myself to my cousin who I thought was just so much better then me… you know how I got over that? Well, I stopped comparing, I started doing things for myself and I started to stop focusing on her good qualities and started to focus on mine. You do the same…

and about the guys, one day, you will meet a guy who’ll like you, and even if he thinks your friend is pretty, he’s not gonna chose her over you because of it.

now about the flirting, you need to confront her that that’s not really okay.

Jealousy is NEVER gonna make you prettier, remember that. I know how you feel, though. I used to be like that, I used to always compare myself to my cousin who I thought was just so much better then me… you know how I got over that? Well, I stopped comparing, I started doing things for myself and I started to stop focusing on her good qualities and started to focus on mine. You do the same…

and about the guys, one day, you will meet a guy who’ll like you, and even if he thinks your friend is pretty, he’s not gonna chose her over you because of it.

now about the flirting, you need to confront her that that’s not really okay.

I had a simular situation like this… somewhat..

the girl I thought was my bff was actually my enemy. she flirted with the guys I liked… but eh… guys will come and go… and plus I got to see how the guy really was, just watching him flirt with her

me and her are no longer friends.

someday yew will meet the right guy, so nothing to worry bout.. theres tons of fish in da sea ^^

-Alice