ok, so let me get this straight right here...
1. you live with your grandmother have a job (s you just stated)but have no income...is that correct?!
2. You fiance doesnt even live with you at this present time, and you are even considering having a child?!
3. your father has been laid off, cant afford clothes for your other siblings so you are trying to help them out by finding out where to get help for him...is that all correct so far?!
now let me ask you this seriously...while all this is going on, you all living in separate homes with no income, wanting a baby but not being able to support it even if you did have one...what in gods name would you do with your so called job if your pregnant & cant support yourself let alone your baby?!
Do you see what & why we are trying to convince you that it is the worst mistake of your life right now...for this present time...(i mean hey it is not our job to try to convince you of what is good or bad here...but \i mean for pete's sake, you on the verge of being hungry & if you were to get pregnant how would be able to afford prenatal care, doc visits, vitamins for you, nutritious food for both you & your unborn baby...think about it for a second...
1. wouldnt it be a whole lot easier if you had a job & were actually making enough money to support yourself while your fiance is doing the same...so hopefully in a few years you can manage on your own!?
2. wouldnt it be a lot easier if you could actually live together for a little while then have the time you so desperately need to just enjoy you & him before committing to a baby?!
3. what of you dont have the job anymore to support you & your baby how is that even fair to the baby?! You cant live on just paying the bills/feeding the baby & all that on just 1 paycheck!
Think about it realistically from our point of view...if someone asked your advice on this issue you would advise them to wait as well because if they didnt they would be headed for a huge disaster just waiting to happen! so take your own advice here...be patient...save up...get out of all this debt & once you are all done & have stabilized all the financial issues, can afford to live together with the fiance & your job is not going to suffer from a pregnancy...then hey by all means...go for it!
We arent trying to go against you on purpose to hurt you...we just want to open your mind & eyes to the sad truth & allow you to see it from our point of view so you dont get hurt in the long run & ruin your life!
ok well my dad supposedly suppose to get one but he is getting income from unemployment but thats all them i dont got nun to do with them... my grandma does her own thing but i have no income im looking for a job and now me and him dont live together yet becuase right now we are planning things...i mean damn cant somebody ask a question about getting pregnant. im not dumb i know what the risk are and what you need. he has a job and his family is very supportive and im not planning on living off of nobody we still in plannin mode but for you all to comment like im stupi or sum bs is ridiculous i have seen people in worse conditions and raise a child. im not bringing a damn child into this world if i know i cant take care of them like suppose to.and no we are not married yet but we do have a very strong and stable relationship. all in all i was only asking for advice not for people to jump my azz about one question to the next...only wanted advice on each seperate thing if i want a counsler i would call mine. let me not get on half these damn people who get pregnant just to do it or dont eve think about it first. or worry about why so many young people having sex but yet your young and getting pregnant yourself...and i say that to all those who are still in high school...damn you all really wanna mess up your schooling...and waiting on this job to come through
I have to say this...not being completely mean and rude. But your asking how to get pregnant...and now asking how to get free clothes because you dont have any source of income. How do you expect to provide for this child if you were to become pregnant. They dont give free baby care, diapers, bottles, clothes, medicine, bedding, etc. People will look at you and tell you that you are stupid for becoming pregnant when you couldnt even take care of the baby in the first place. This doesnt make any sense at all hun. Dont be trying to have a baby if you cant support the poor little thing. That is just being selfish.
I am really sorry here but I do have to agree...you can barely make ends meet by needing help with money & now asking where to get clothes...how can even think about bringing a life into this world if you can barely take care of yourself?! Think about the future not the now...when you are all set off & living comfortably then think about bringing a life into this world, til then dont make that innocent life suffer for your carelessness or pure selfish reason to have a baby! A baby is a gift & should be treated as 1...rethink your decision before having a baby!
Okay if ur going to raise a child the three most needed things. Ask yourself these questions.
1. Am I married
2. Do I have a stable relationship to raise a child?
3. Do I own a house?
If you aren't married then yeah it's harder
You want to always be together -NO divorse because it makes it hard for the kid :(
And you need to live together (duh lol) so you have to think about living together in your OWN house. And finally do you have the money to. Support this child. :)
I'm you said "since I don't have any income" which implies that, you need clothes for yourself because you have no money coming in. How are we supposed to know "your man" has a job when you're asking for clothes and also, please don't have a baby because your expecting your mother to support it.
If you're still in planning mode then why thte hell are you trying to get pregnant? Planning mode means you're still figuring things out and deciding what you want to do. Spening nine months trying to get pregnant is something you do when the planning is done and everything is in order.
That child wouldnt have a life if she was to get pregnant and has no source of income. She wont be able to support the babies needs what-so-ever. Do you think her grandma is going to want a baby in her house while her granddaughter cant support the poor little thing...I dont think so.
well for one im getting a job and my man has one...so that why we trying to have one and im mainly asking it cause my mama needs to get clothes for my brothers but my dad lost his job so why not ask for all the facts first then draw conclusions thank you
well really my mom did it with me..plus my mom put herself through school to be an doctor. my mom was 15 when she got pregnant with me she had no job no nothing. my grandparents had nothing either. but we made it through
i agree that maybe you shouldnt get pregnant... i work for my own money because i dont like to have to ask my mom nor dad for money........
get an job be4 trying to get pregnant.....'but really you can go to a church
mrs tarver629, we are just trying to help you not hurt you...so just calm down...take a deep breath...& relax!
Try to take what we said into consideration & make your final decision when you are ready!
everyone. let her worry about her baby, if she has one that's her decision not no one elses. she simply asked a question about clothes not some one trying to make her decision on having a baby or not.
how are you going to have a baby in your grandmothers house?? you cant even live on your own and take care of yourself.how on earth are you going to take care of a baby????????
im not expexting my mother to support my child and yes i have no income but i stay with my grandmother and my fiance stays with his parents so i have no income in this house
Start with your church or a neighborhood church. If they do not have any, they will have some thoughts and directions for you.
yeah see you made it through just fine. so everyone should just chill and let her decide whats right and whats wrong.
I don't know where you would get free clothes, but I suggest Savers, or making your own clothing.
I have to agree on that one. Think about ur choices mrs tavin
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You need a free brain from the wizard of oz! :O
I was thinking the same thing!
Right on jessica!!!
Jessica is wright!
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I agree 100%
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