I am 15 and I am a virgin. I can't find my hole. I can't even seem to fit a tampon up there. I've experimented and tried getting my finger up there but I can't seem to fit anything very far! It's embarresing; how am I supposed to have sex with my boyfriend or even let him finger me when I can't even fit a tampon!? And when I take something out, its sore as fuuck! I'm pretty sure I've got the right hole. any advice or similar problems? pleeeease!?
First, make sure you've got the right hole.. It sounds like you have, since you mentioned tampons. If you're putting it in where the blood is coming out then you've got it right. Tampons come in different sizes because everyone's hole is a different width. It just sounds like you're quite tight. I'd recommend trying the smallest tampons you can find, and if that fails then just stick to pads. Anyway, with regard to sex and things; don't even think about putting anything inside you if you're not wet. It will be difficult, especially since you're tight, and it will be very sore. You also have to relax or it'll be worse. There's a condition called vaginismus that you might want to look into..
to address your second problem fingering and sex also as mentioned by @Emily you should not try to insert anything if your not wet. if you and your boyfriend want to experiment then that is your choice but there should be foreplay beforehand to ensure...um...proper lubrication. just make sure you both are ready and properly protected. Also (I'm sorry but as a cop I have to say this) if he is over 18 then I strongly discourage any sexual interaction this is a felony, will send him to jail if found out, and he will be on a child sex offender list for the rest of his life.
sounds like you have the right hole the problem is that you are a virgin ( not that I am saying that is a bad thing I personally think that that is a very good thing) by that I maen that you still have a membrane covering the vagina opening called the hymen (what tears when you lose your virginity, refer to diagram below) the hymen has a smaller hole in the middle which allows the menstral blood to drain from the vagina. what is happening is the tampon is larger than the hole. as mentioned by @Emily try using smaller tampons or just stick with pads.
check the fig out and map ur holes in the right way
