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And please don't say, tell their parents.
You should try to talk to your friend about it. Let him or her know that you’re here for him/her no matter what, and try to make that person open up to you about whatever problems he or she's having. There's a good chance your friend is keeping things bottled up inside, and cutting is his or her way to cope with the pain. Don't push your friend too much about it if you can't get him/her to stop immediately. Just tell your friend how important he or she is to you and make him/her feel needed and special. The best thing you can really do is just be there for your friend. However, if he or she doesn't stop after a long time, and the cutting gets worse, I think you do need to tell the parents.
this is a difficult question because not everybody is the same and depending on how u go about it cut potentially ruin a friendship i am a recovering cutter, none of my friends did anything and so i love the fact that u r trying to find a way to do something. my advice is talk to ur friend, if she doesnt think she needs the help (which she wont think she needs help at all and may even get offended that u asked) go to the next source... her parents. give it about a week if they r not doing anything then bring in the school, talk to a principle school counselor or even a teacher they will kno wat to do or tell u where to go from there best of luck and u r an amazing friend!
this is a difficult question because not everybody is the same and depending on how u go about it cut potentially ruin a friendship i am a recovering cutter, none of my friends did anything and so i love the fact that u r trying to find a way to do something. my advice is talk to ur friend, if she doesnt think she needs the help (which she wont think she needs help at all and may even get offended that u asked) go to the next source... her parents. give it about a week if they r not doing anything then bring in the school, talk to a principle school counselor or even a teacher they will kno wat to do or tell u where to go from there best of luck and u r an amazing friend!
I agree with Angie. A true friend would do anything and everything to make sure they got the help they needed, and if that means the parents need to know, despite the risk of losing that person as a friend, then you do it. if there's some other reason why you can't tell the parents (you haven't really given us much to go on here), then you notify some other authority figure - the school councilor, a teacher you trust, maybe one of your friend's aunts or uncles. What you don't do is make the mistake of thinking that you can talk your friend out of this.
I'm saying this because i used to cut myself: Understand him/her. Many people don't understand why people would cut themselves and tell others who do that they should stop and they are just hurting themselves. They KNOW they are hurting themselves, and that is precisely why they cut themselves: It's like a release from the world, from the pain, knowing that something is real and you'd rather feel physical pain than mental pain. Put yourself in their shoes, and help them all you can.
I hear what you're saying, but I gotta tell you, I used to yell at my kids alot. (3 teenagers in the house at one time when you're both mom and dad to them can be quite stressful ;-), but if someone had told me that my kid was doing that it would have shocked me into silence, and then into action. You can't always judge the way a parent will react when they hear something that serious about their child
There is an online hot line with people who can talk to your friend and it will be totally secret unless your friend gives them the number or permision to contact anyone. I can not remember it right now but it id something like your life your voice, it is a suicid/abuse prevention hotline where you can call, instant message or email. An adult from school can help if you can not find the hotline
talk to them ask them how they feel and why they are doing it. be very gentle and listen mostly, don't yell at them. do tell the parents but if they are part of the problem i think you should tell the parents that too and i would ask your friend too if they wanted them to know or if they wanted to change before they told their parent. but i think being gentle is they key.
Okay first off just talk to your friend & ask what is going on in their life. Don't bring up the cutting til later on in the conversation. Last year i had a problem with this & when someone noticed i was embarrassed. So be gentle & kind about it & let them know that they are worth more than that. :)
Why do you say "and don't say tell the parents?" I'm a parent and I would hope that if my kid was doing that and I couldn't tell, that someone would let me know so I could at least be aware of the situation and do whatever was necessary to get help for my child.
The reason I said don't say tell tgeir parents is because all their parents do is yell at both of their kids so it wouldn't help anything to tell their parents. It would make it all worse and make them want ro cut themselves more.
If you're a true friend, you'll seek help for them whether they want it or not.....This is Serious....THEY ARE IN TROUBLE ! ....and of course, be there right with them through it all...Me, I'd keep them in my prayers....
you should make sher that they dont go to fare and when they do try to get some help! but do make them feel welcome in ur life and try to get them to open up to u. but never force or the cutting might get worse
But if you know for sure the parent will make the situation worse, is there another adult relative your friend can trust to help with the situation?
Talk to them about it, get to the bottom of what's making them do that and offer your support :)
i would be there to support them and i would also tell them to go get help.
talk to them.try helping
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