Fighting! Please Help!

My wife and I have been married for about two years now. We have had a number of fights during that time. But it seems that things aren’t getting better. Most of the time its a little thing, but it turns into a huge deal. I think I am a big part of that. We are both really stubborn. I am just wondering if anyone has any ideas on what we can do to help us to not fight as much.

Thanks!

Answer #1

well…I’ll be honest, if things have been this way for two years, I don’t think anything any of us can say will help…HOWEVER…I have a few small suggestions…

try talking things over before it leads to fighting

ask your wife why certain things are bothering her…

you’ve admitted your’e both stubborn…be the bigger person in the relationship and let her win, be gentle and calm as often as possible…even if it kills you to do it…eventually she’s going to realize she’s sounding nuts by getting angry and will settle down too…

With all that in mind, a marriage couselor might be a good idea for you both. clearly there are some deeper problems, even if they are sbuconscience…kee pa open mind and try to listen before you speak…its not a easy thing to do, and while I’m not saying your’e unresonable I think it pays to listen first…

listen for what she’s telling you without telling you…women are kinda weird in that way…so listen…

Answer #2

dont let things get into a huge fight I know its hard but just bite your lip and say anything she’ll soon see that if your trying your best then she’ll stop as well! everyone has rough patches in the marraige no matter how long they last but dont let these fights last any longer and soon things will be worked out.

Answer #3

I think you should talk to her wait untill shes in a good mood and say you just want to talk to her really quick. tell her that you realize that its the little things that make a marriage perfect, but ask her why things make you fight so much. ask her if its really just because of the thing your fighting about or if its more, if shes mad at you about something.

im sure things will work out for you. just give it time. :]

Answer #4

Sometimes all it takes it to ask how their day went at work or whatever and for you to LISTEN to what she has to say without interupting

Answer #5

Uh huh, the perfect way to go is if one of you gives up being stubborn sometime.

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