I was engaged at sixteen. Thank God I didn't marry her. That could have very well destroyed my life. Of course, I was a "heartstrung" sixteen year-old and because of the state of the brain at that age, I could only see the future as far as the end of my nose. Everything else was very far out of sight.
However, I did just attempt to leave this girl an answer, suggesting that she either buys her boyfriend a Buick, a Ford Taurus SHO, an engraved Cross pen or a Sterling Silver Flatware set. Thus saying: What do I know? However, most men are hard to buy for.
I'm questioning why Funadvice rejected my response without any reason.
I agree that its insane for a fourteen year-old to be so harshly judgmental but at least we know that one won't make the same mistake.
That's all well and good, but a 14 yr old calling someone stupid for being married at 18 (even though the asker isn't officially married yet, mind you) is inexperienced rationale at its finest. Her statement failed to answer the question at hand and immediately cast judgment on a large sector of the population that happened to find love at a young age. Is it always right to get married at the age of 18? Of course not, and part of me wishes I would have waited. Nevertheless, a person calling another out for doing so should at least have some sort of authority. I would be less critical of a 23 yr old like yourself questioning the decisions of a heart strung 17 yr old than I am of this pubescent teen who ran her mouth when she shouldn't have.
No kidding, I was 21 when I got married, but my husband had just turned 18. We have married for 7 years now, and been together for 10. Love is Love no matter how young or old you are. If you find the right one at a young age you are lucky. :)
To answer the girls question, you should take him out to dinner and buy him something he is interested in. Maybe a game or movie... guys usually like to be practical, and receive what they like or need.
Women like nice things like jewelry or perfume, whereas most guys like to be practical. You could look at his stuff and see what he needs, eg: a new wallet, belt, shirt, shoes voucher (shoes are hard to buy for somebody else...) or a book he wants, a game... What is his job? You could somehow think of something to do with that. Or if he's still in school you could get him a really nice satchel to use as a bag.
Oh! Silly me... I thought the person was asking ''what should I get my fiance for his 18th birthday?'' Not ''Is 18 a stupid age to get married?'' :)
Anyway, since you guys are so close, he'll love anything you get him... how about you take him to a nice dinner? Or get him a nice shirt.. or watch.. etc..
I didn't think of watches. Rolex is the old man of modern watches, though. Hublot makes good ones. I myself am not a big fan of watches. I find them gaudy. However, if he ever intends to work in an office, they're very important, there.
There is something very strange with my copy/paste function, this morning but letting it slip past my eyes twice is horrible. I should be more awake before I start posting. http://funadvice.com/r/3jujfig9ps
It is, however, a fact that our prefrontal lobes (which are responsible for long-term planning) aren't fully developed until our mid-20's. Its the last part of the brain to develop.
You have no right to judge. You don't know her, or the relationship she has. Eighteen is not too young to get married in my opinion, it works for some people.
I was 18 when I got married, and I think everyone on here would agree I'm not stupid. I guess a 14 year old knows more about love than I do though.
Thaks I know its young but we have been together forever and age is just a number you dont have to be 30 before you fall in love.
ur married, and ur only 18. thats a stupid age to get married. Marriage isnt something u can rush into!
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