I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and we have recently been talking about me moving in with him. I'm 19 and he is 18 and we were going to just stay at his parents house as a tester to see how we would cope in the situation, and if all goes well then we are going to look for our own place together.
My parents are very overly protective and controlling and have never liked my boyfriend, just because I'm with him. And when I say controlling I mean in the way that my mum tells me to do something for myself and when I do she pushes me out of the way and takes over, and even though im 19 she panics at the thought of me going out drinking with friends and tries to stop me. So this is also so I can get some independence of my own.
But I really don't know how to explain the fact that I want to move in with him to my parents without hurting them or causing a huge argument. I'd be really grateful if someone could help me with this, thank you.
Moving in with his parents is not a good idea. It's not a good way to tell if you two can live together and it doesn't show that you can live on your own. I think you'll just be a burden to his parents unless you're paying rent, buying groceries, cleaning the house, etc. if you really want independence, find a place all on your own and show your parents you can do that. Maybe you could live alone for a few months and then have your boyfriend move in with you.
Having your own place and staying at his parents house is not the same thing. If you are trying to break away from the parents then why stay at his parents house? Might as well stay at your own. You see, his parents are still going to call the shots because it's their house so...how's that any different?
It's better to move out, when living with your parents you are still able to get trouble from something they don't approve. It's your parents house your still living in they could still tell you to do something.