Exgirlfriend Blues

My Boyfriend and his ex attend the same church, so they see every other day and she rides in his car.My problem is that she keeps calling him, and asking him stuff like “where are you”? He says they are just friends and I honestly believe him, but that doesnt prevent me from feeling mad, jelous and disrespected. I am not asking him to leave his church, I only want him to put boundaries in his relationship with her, but he is not doing that.Are my feelings normal?

Answer #1

It is normal to feel jealousy when one feels insecure about our partners feelings towards us or another person. If you honestly beleive him when he says he has no attraction to her and is really inlove with you that’s already one up. But it sounds like something is still bothering you and that’s what you have to figure out. Is he doing something to make you doubt his feelings towards you? Or are you feeling insecure for some other reason? Is she doing something that makes you feel threatened? Can you talk to her or him about it? I find that it really helps when you become friends with your partners friends. Maybe if you could meet her and show her that you love your partner and are ready to accept their friendship as long as she respects your relationship, then you wouldn’t feel excluded from their friendly relationship. The fact that you are an outsider to their friendship can definetly be the root of insecurities and jealousies, your partner should understand this and want to help you feel included and secure.

Answer #2

they are pretty normal i would be a lil nervous if my man was giving his ex rides but if you love him and he loves you than she is really just a friend and calmly confront this girl! ask her if she still has feelings for ure man and tell her how you feel about him, how long you’ve been with him and stuff like that…

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