What can you do when an elderly person goes insane?

For one, you should probably remove yourself from the situation until the person calms down.

Do you know what it was that upset them so much? If you want to work out whatever it was that happened, until you’re sure they won’t go hitting you again, talking to them about it in person should be off limits. Maybe call them in a few days to see if they’re ready to talk about it?

If they don’t want to talk about it, just leave it be.

what if you cant, because she is a blood relative and it’s your word against hers? It’s easy to say hey just throw her into a retirement home, but it hard if not impossible to allow your heart to do that!

Sounds like a serious nervous break down.. When that happens,ever thought of calling 911? sounds like the person you are talking about needs some help. :(

cant do that, wish it were that simple, but its not! She seems to flip out like that every few months, where she looses touch with reality thinks someone is trying to do something on purpose like a conspiracy thing out of spite…and lashes out! I have told her to see a shrink, but she refuses to go to one. I believe she really needs to see one asap. I just dont know what to do with her anymore!

I know, but I cant just call the cops on her. She is 62 years old.

Give them some tpye of meds to calm them down then maybe take them to a counselor or somewhere where they can recieve special help

Im not sure, exactly, but I need to know the answer to that too, so if i’m ever in the situation I can handle it properly. :O WAIT! I’d give her a rhino tranquilizer shot! Hahaha!

is she like your g-ma or something?

not possible, best to stay clear of her at the moment…there is no use reasoning with her, she is a stuborn bullheaded woman who only see’s things her way or the high way…which is why keeping away from her right now is the only solution! I just dont know what to do with her or when her next outburst will happen.

Wooow, it sounds serious but yuh do need to talk to someone about the situation bcuz yuh cant handle it yourself juss stayin clear it not helping only making it worswe cuz you are avoiding her

sometimes it is the only solution to an awkward situation!

nope she is my mother!

oh snap. :/ If your living there and she is hitting you,that’s abuse. And if she just flips out and you don’t know why,their could be something wrong with her brain and she really needs some help. I think the best thing would be is to call 911 or something next time she starts hitting you and ask them to take her to get some help,sense she is refusing it. You can’t be her punching bag and if you don’t even know why she flips out like this,then this isn’t good for you or her! emotionally this is causing pain and stress on you and apprently she is having some major issues and doesn’t know what to do. You can’t take this all on yourself! I can image how hard it would be to have to call on your mom,but for your safety and hers,you need to do something. And when she can get some real help,try to see someone and talk out what you have gone through. I have lived in abusive homes before. I was moved around a lot. My dad died when i was 2 and my mom has been in and out of mental hostpitals and i have been moved around in different homes. I know what it’s like to be abused. And even though you love your mom and everything,you need to think of both of your guy’s safty

thanks for the advice, I know you are right, but my heart just cant do it…I have to deal with it for as long as my father is still alive, it’s the only reason why I moved back here in the first place, so watch over him from her…he has congestive heart failure, and it if wasnt crucial that I be here & i would have never came back in the first place! Sometimes we all have to deal with issues, abuse from her isnt something I have had to deal with from now…it’s been going on for years…and I have made peace with the fact that she hates me years ago & only loves my brother, who mooches off of her & cant wait til both my parents are gone…I cant allow him to get away with it even if it means putting up with her abuse, I have to be here for my father…for his sake…once god forbid he time is up I am out of here this time for good!

Well i hope for the best. Sorry your dad isn’t doing to good. :(

thanks, your very sweet! ♥

<3 -just try to pray and stuff… Btw have you ever heard of The Secret by Rhonda Byrns? It teaches people how to use the Law Of Attraction. It’s helped me a ton in my life and with dealing with family issues. I think it could be of help to you! You can get it in a book,cd or dvd. It’s at most libraries. I rented the cd version at my library and just riped the files to my computer and then burned it to some black CD-Rs and i listen to it almost everyday. It’s really helpful for making changes. I think it would be helpful for you,with what your going through with your family and everything. :)

*blank CD-Rs (typo)

thanks…I do pray & stuff…hasnt helped me much. I guess it’s like the saying help yourself & god will help you…meaning I have to help myself as I have always done in the past…best thing for me is to be away from her as sad as it may be! I can only blame myself for coming back here, but I had to put my father before myself…life just is like that sometimes. Some day it will be over & until then I just have to what I have done in the past…know in my heart that I am a good person that always tries to help & god knows what she does & will see she gets what she deserves in due time as he see’s fit! In this world what goes around comes around…you see when she says: “why is this always happening to me?” when something bad happens to her…is when I know god chose for it to happen to her! I believe in that Karma is a b!tch & it always wind up hitting you up when you least expect it!

and yes I have seen the secret…I cant say that I agree with it 100% but some stuff did make sense to me. thanks again ♥

yea i understand

yw :)

She doesnt have to go to see a psychiatrist voluntarily. You can force it if she’s acting like that. Sounds like she has some sort of dementia. You need to call an ambulance and have her checked out. You need to do this for her own good. There are medications that can help her. The longer you put this off, the worse she’s going to be. You’re an adult, so quite frankly it is up to you what you put up with. That is your business. But it isnt about the abuse. She is a vulnerable person, and as such needs to get care.

I think that you should calmly explain to your mother how worried about her you are. Let her know that what happened really hurt you, and that while you love her, that it’s too upsetting for you to be around her when she’s like this. Maybe get her resources to see a counselor or doctor, but don’t force the idea on her. Leave the resources with her and give her a few days to think on it.

For her to do this, she’s going to need to see that this is effecting those around her negatively, a great deal. She needs to understand that therapy or seeing someone about these episodes she has is important and the best option. You can’t make her feel like she’s a crazy person, because she’s not and that’s really hurtful. So if you’re going to talk to her, be a little more delicate about her feelings and don’t use wording that’s going to upset her. She is, after all, only human.

If she won’t get help and she keeps hitting at you, there’s no other option but for you to call 911. It’s a harsh option and you probably feel like it will hurt your mother, but if you explain this to the police and say that she needs serious help with it, they most likely will see if there’s anything they can do. They don’t like seeing people out there who are a danger to themselves or others.

I know that this must be hard for you, but you can’t lose sight of what’s important. Your mother needs the help. She needs someone to help her realize this. If she doesn’t get help, it could only get worse. So whatever you do, just try your best.

Take care.

Sorry for the late response, I just read your post, there is no use talking to her about it or anything else for that matter….I have tried for years to talk to her & she takes the “i dont have to talk to anyone, I know what they are going to say!” Attitude! She knows all, She knows everything about every subject known to man kind in her mind…She puts everyone else down & makes everyone around her feel like sh!t & less then she is! Even when we all know she knows nothing about something she will continue to argue that she knows all & we know nothing…so you see trying to reason with someone like that that thinks they know all just feels like she is too good for anything & is above anyone! There is no use even trying anymore! I had to make the ultimate sacrifice & move back here to take care of my father so she wouldn’t cause him a heart att@ck, I knew what the risks were…I just hope god knows what she keeps on doing to me & hopefully she will get what she deserves not by my hand! I can not call the cops on her…she is my mother, she is 62 & refuses to cooperate and at this point in time if she gets any worse I am going to have to tape her going all crazy on me and hopefully that is going to be enough proof to commit her! For now I refuse to talk to her or get anywhere near her…until she apologizes & swears to get some help when she tries to talk to me. It’s the only best solution for the time being. thanks so much for trying to help but I know her…she is a bullheaded, stubborn, aggravated, hurtful, mean old bitter woman who is unsatisfied with the way her life turned out to be & is forever taking it out on me & my dad…I can only try to stop her…it’s all I got left!

You need to call her regular doctor, not a shrink. She could have dimentia or early onset alzheimers. It is a medical issue and should be treated as one. It has nothing to do with her feelings towards you. I would suggest calleng and speaking to her doctor without her knowledge. See what he/she thinks you should do.

She sounds like my stepmom (OCS & Dementia) so I know where you are coming from.