If you know you are pregnant...
1. Where you raped/forced? If so tell her, but I strongly sugest not to abort the baby as it was the bastard fault, not yours or the baby! It is NEVER your fault!
2. Did you have consensual sex? If so own up to it. Say "Mom, I made a mistake". If she has threatened to "kick you out/disown you should you ever get pregnant", tell you you know what she has told you, but that you are pregnant no matter what she decides to do, her anger cannot make you unpregnant. Say you thought it was best to tell her/a medical doctor instead of keeping it a seceret so as to unleash worse anger and distrust once she found out on her own. Tell her you wanted it out in the open and that you would prefer this than to go uncared for in seceret and have a miscarriage or birth defects in the baby. Remind her that an uncared for pregnancy is dangerous for both mother and child. That you want what is best for the baby and hope your mom will support you, even just emotionally. If she is religious, remind her yes you sinned, but the baby is innocent in God's eyes and your sin or whatnot should not be taken out on the unborn child.
If you have a good relationship with your mom ask her about what your friend/sis should do in your case "what advice would you give to ______ if she was pregnant?"
Remember that the father may be afraid of the responsibility/fatherhood and may leave.
I hope you take this as a lesson learned and use protection!
Best of luck to you and your baby sweetie! There are programs for young moms/moms without money or homes, both federal ones and nonprofits that will help you keep your baby. Please feel free to Fun mail me with any questions or concerns!
Well first off, figure out whether you are or are n ot first, since you posted questions about the possibility of getting pregnant. I suggest you take the test or go to your doctors.
If you are pregnant, unfortunately there's no easy way. You really just tell her, sit her down, explain to her your situation. Talk it out with her. Be prepared for lots of anger. It might take time for her, as well, for it to sink in before she can be supportive. Don't expect her to just be ok with it.
If you aren't learn to use PROPER PROTECTION, From your previous question, you had unprotected sex. Get yourself on contraceptives, go to your doctor or a planned parenthood. You have many options, pill, nuvaring, the patch, etc. And tell your partner or whomever you will not have sex with out a condom.
you need to tell her as soon as possible to look at your options. She will be upset about it at first but that is natural. Every single person that I know that has gone through this made their parents upset at first. But after sometime the whole family warms up. And the baby is just another kid in the family. Best of luck to you!! and if you are not then use protection. Most clinics give out condoms for free if you request them
Thank you ! And ive already asked my mom questions like that. She wouldn't disown me, but she had me around my age and said she wont do for me, what my grandparents did for her. And no i wasnt raped. I made the dumb choice. And yes.. im prepared for the father to step out to be honest, because 90% do. Thank you very much for the advice !
No i'm not with him. Me and him like eachother but both dont want a relationship and we had sex alot.. we still do. But im nervous now about me being pregnant. If i am im definantly going to keep it.. but when i tell my mom, i dont want him around. Nor do i want to be around when he tells his.
Yes actually it did. Because, I thought about it and being that i live with a wreckless 2 year old sister.. i see how my mom struggles to deal with her .. and my mom isnt single and my sisters dad lives with us. It made me feel irresponsible and that isnt how i usually am. It did effect me.
Just be mature about it.
Ask her if you can talk to her in private and then calming and slowing explain.
It helps to explain in some order and reherse before hand.
But if your mum started shouting, don't shout back. Try to explain calmly agan.
however you tell her, if your with your guy still.. id have him by your side for strength and courage. cause bathorys right, theres never an easy way to tell yourmon something as big as that
I'm glad to hear that - for your sake. But I'm also a little puzzled. How does this change in your perspective fit in with what you wrote above: "we had sex a lot. WE STILL DO"?
Jasmine, has getting pregnant changed or affected your thoughts or feelings about having a lot of sex with someone who you know you don't want a relationship with?