I am 16. I do not get along with my mom. She will sometimes act all nice, and then go on a rampage calling me all sorts of nasty names, making me feel like crap, and that I'm worthless. And when I told her what career I want to have, which is art, she tells me that I'll never get a job in that field, and I'm not good enough, even though I've been in many art shows and been recomended to teachers and colleges. If I need something from the store she will throw a huge fit and act like what I need is not important, but then if SHE needs something then everybody has to go to the store. We also do not have a lot of money, and we can't afford a lot. But then she buys all these expensive and collectible items for like 70 dollars each and buys so much decorations for the holidays, no wonder we have no money. I told her this and she once again, threw a huge fit saying its not my money and she can do what she wants. But its not her money either. My dad is the one that works. And he doesn't like all the crap she spends all our money on either, but she wears the pants in the relationship, so what he says doesn't mean anything. She also treats my sister like a princess. My sister is 12. My sister can do anything in the world and get away with it. Even if it has nothing to do with me, I get blamed. I know that everyone says the oldest thinks the youngest gets treated better, but I know for sure, my mom likes my sister better. My little sister wanted my bedroom instead of hers, so my mom took my sisters old bedroom, turned it into a computer room, my sister got my room, and I got the basement. I had sheets for walls for years and years and I begged and begged for walls until I finally got some 4 years later. And they still aren't finished. I even moved out and lived with my grandma for 3 months, but it didnt work out there because I didn't have my own room and it was torture trying to get to school from there. She always compliments my sister all the time about how shes so pretty and does so good in school. But what about me? She only says negotive things about me. And I hear her talking to relatives on the phone, saying all these things about me, which aren't true and she totally twists a story around to make it sound so much worse that it is. I have had thoughts of running away, and I told my mom that, hoping she would think about the way she treats me. But instead, she laughed at me and told me I had nowhere to go, and that I was stupid and a idiot for thinking that, and she'd just call the cops if I did. I also just bought a puppy, with MY money and my mom threatens to get rid of it when shes mad, and I know she would too. She got rid of MY cat last year. And my puppy has some behavior problems, because she is a rescued dog, and I have no clue what her previous owners did to her. But when I'm trying to train my puppy not to bark and whine and bite, my mom sits there and encourages her to bark, bite an whine. And when I yell at my puppy to be quiet when shes doing her high pitched yippy barks, my mom calls me an animal abuser and that I should have my puppy taken away. And that totally destroys me when she says that, because I love animals. I'm sorry this is so long and no one cares, but I just needed to vent. I just need to know how to deal with this, or is there good jobs a 16 year old can have so I can move out when I'm 17.
Well here's another person who's in your guy's shoes. Me and my mom haven't been getting along eversince I was a little girl. We fight every other week or so. Most of the time it's about stuff like if I say something to her she'll think its super rude then I'll ask her what her problem is in a nice way and she'll grab my face and treat me like a child and say do you see how your talking to me, and stuff like that. We have nothing in common except maybe she we both like yellow, only she likes dark yellow and I like florescent really bright yellow. We fight about other things to. Sometimes I'll get upset I'll go in my room and throw things just to blow off steam. I am asian and I get my temper from my dad, but he doesn't have a temper anymore. I can talk to my dad about anything, any of my problems or worry's. My dad solves things between me and mom most of the time. I noticed that as I'm getting older I'm growing apart from my mom. I do think about moving out sometimes but I also want to stay with my family for a while, you know keep that bond a little more. My aunt and my cousine are starting to go through the same stuff to. I wan't to finish school first and do more modeling and Art and Singing and dancing. I almost went on Oprah to sing and what did mom say besides dad's encouragement? nothing. All the time after me and mom fight, she'll then later tell me to forget about it. Then she'll go the whole day sighing in a squeeky voice, or yawing loudly so I can hear it, or even looking at me when she thinks I'm not looking and shake her head and make a puff sound at the same time. It seems like she's trying to do this to me to get eve or make me mad for no reason. I don't know why. Well I plan on having a better life in the future and being a very sucessful girl in life. Well I just wan't to know I here to and your not alone. If you have to move out early to have a better resolution do it. Maybe you could move in with one of your friends, or one of your friends that live someplace else in the world. I'm freindless right now, I've been homeschooled for three years and I'm starting a new job as a free lance blogger. SORRY FOR THE LONG STORY BUT I HAD TO SHOOT OUT SOME OF MY PINK BULLETS AND RELOAD SOME FRESH ONES, and Thanks for listening, keep going no matter what. I will be praying for you and your mom. Maye someday we individuals will all work things out.
This might sound like a bit of a cop out answer, but have you tried talking to a school counsellor? Sometimes they can help to set up a mediation, where both parties (in this case, you and your mother) can voice your concerns and opinions in a controlled environment, and hopefully come to some solutions to your conflict.
It may not work, but I reckon anything is worth a try.
I have such a simular situation, it's not even funny. only it's with my older brother and she's not so obvious about it. though it kinda even's out considering the other stuff that she does. I know this doesn't answer your question, but I hope it helps you to know that there are others like you (such as me and the person who answer is on top of mine)
me and my mom dont get along either. one way shes all good to me and other times shes mean and make me mad. me and my mom havent gotten along that well since 8 years ago. yea my mom is all nice and good to my sister(younger). but im kinda in your shoes too.