So I am an 18 year old girl who is absolutely head over heels in love with the sweetest guy on the planet. The only problem is that he is older than me ... way older. I just turned eighteen and he just turned 33. I think that there is nothing wrong with that picture but my friends and family tell me I'm nuts. Is liking him really that bad ? I mean he asked me to be his girlfriend a week after my graduation and I told him yes. But apparently people think that he is only in it to hit it and quit it but I have never had sex before and he knows that I am not going to do that until I get married. He gets that, he respects it but others think that we are delusional. I need advice ... is the age difference really that bad ?
Well, I just turned 18 as well and I really like this guy...he's 27, turning 28 in october. I feel that this is a huge age difference as is and I can appreciate that it would cause problems. For me it's 9-10 years and I feel terrible, I know my family would not be pleased with that. For you it's 15 years...I know there's other people who have had bigger age gaps but you really need to take into consideration what you want in life. Do you want respect from your family? Do you want society to look at you strangely? What problems would arise if you decided to have kids? You really need to take into consideration the long term effects of this. Believe me, I know it sucks and I know it isn't fun. Yet what other people think does matter, on one level or another, and you need to try and realize what you'd be willing to give up (or put up with) for him.
I'm sorry, not trying to be mean, because I do understand. I'm just trying to help you think logically and realistically :)
love has no boundaries...it is possible to be in love with someone, regardless of their age...BUT use your common sense. When something doesn't seem right, it probably is not. If this is real for you, then you follow it. Make the right decisions. Don't rush into anything. Don't do something you have a feeling you would regret. This is a huge age gap so if it is bothering you. look into why..maybe there is a valid reason.
It doesn't matter what others think, it is what you believe that matters =] ...good luck with everything
You are both at totally different stages in your life. Your not on the same maturity level or lifes experiences! You just graduated from highschool, hes been out for 15 years. Hes almost twice your age...what could you two possibly have in common? How could he possibly relate to an 18 yr old...unless his mentallity is that of an 18 yr old.
Alls I can say is...Its your life Hun!
No, follow your heart. If you truely love him, dont listen to anyone else. But, dont give up on him or ruin a great relationship &+ lose someone you love all because of other people.
&+ you said he waited until after graduation. so that shows you that he just doesnt want to "hit it then quit it" /
stay with him.
No I think that there is somebody for everybody out there. He might be the one for you and I am not the one to tell you if he is or not. Take it slow and don't try to act his age. Tell the other people that dont approve that they are just jelous that you found somebody that might be the one.
if there is no age limit for hate why should there be an age limit for love? go for it and if it turns out badly you have learnt havent you? catherine zeta jones is 22 years younger than her husband and they have a successful relationship x
nope I think age is just a number ..just follow your heart ..if you love him and your happy with him ..then so be it ..good luck to you :]
