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Do you think they're using me?

Ok so basically I want to know your opinions on this…

I have two people I’d concider my ‘best friends’ but recently I’ve been thinking of how they act around me and if theyre maybe just using me…

We generally hang round in a 3 but when we do I always seem to get pushed out somehow. They’ll laugh and not tell me why or they’ll just ignore me. But if I’m with one of them on their own, they’re fine with me and they’ll treat me like normal, but as soon as the other turns up I’m left again.

In pe when we have to work in twos theyre always together. Eventhough we said we’d take turns being eachothers partner since theres three of us. I’m always left on my own.

We recently went on a trip abroad with school and it took 24 hours to get there. They sat together for that 24 hours and I was left sitting on my own.

They do this a lot and seem if I dont know something theyre like ‘of course you wouldn’t know!’ and basically calling me stupid.

I don’t know. They can be really really nice but sometimes they seem to just use me for when theres no-one else to talk to. I’ve tried telling them I dont like being on my own all the time but they didnt take me seriously it seems.

What do you think?

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Answer #1

this has happened to me many times growing up when I was in exactly your position…I dont remember what I did, but I think you should confront them, give them a chance to realize how you are feeling, and if they like you said do not take you seriously, then find other friends. real friends would not do this to you, I am sure you hang out with other girls to, but it is just them you always fall to on weekends and after school, ask someone else to go to the mall with you or whatever you do, and if they realize their mistake I am sure they will apologize, but if not screw them, you know? I am sure you are much better than to let them treat you like that, you just shouldnt stand for that. but in the end you have to follow your heart and just do what you want for fun, dont follow them around, live your life, and have fun!

Answer #2

I agree with dinosaur. you are not a follower, no should have to follow people around and then the second someone better comes alon you are ditched that is way lame. I think you need to get some new friends. Just make a clean cut from them and you will find that you are better off without them. Almost everyone I know has had to do the same thing at least once in their life, its all a part of growing up and figuring out who your TRUE friends are! Plus your friends right now sounds REALLY obnoxious (no offense!) Also, my suspicion is that they may have a crush on each other…you never know!

hope I was of some help, let me know if you need any advice on how to ditch them!

—Emma

Answer #3

you need to get MAD. next time they leave you out, give them the cold shoulder- and don;t flake out halfway through because you are afraid of losing them. they need to realize that its not fair to you as a friend to leave you out. I am also in a group of 3 and for awhile I felt that way until I drew the line and it turned out they hadnt even noticed what they were doing! now we rotate just fine. make one new friend, and start doing EVERYTHING with them. make them jealous. good luck.

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