So as many of you may know what's been happening lately with my gf, a few days ago she broke up with me because she said she promised herself if i didn't say anything about fixing our issues or that i loved her for about a month and i explained to her that i've been planning something special for her whenever i could be able to see her face to face again and i really wanted to surprise her with it, but she broke up with me because she said i was too late and i kept stressing to her that i've bending over backwards for her to do something that will mend us back together and she's been busy alot on almost every weekend so i haven't been able to see at all this summer, but i kept waiting because i knew when she saw my effort she would be glad to work things out. But she said that she was waiting for me to say something, and i really wanted to say something over text but i was unsure on how she would react because she was replying very vaguely, so i decided that i wanted to do it face to face to make it genuine and better for our relationship, but i guess that failed :/ she says that we could still be best friends if i want, which i do, but i want to be more than that and give it another shot. I asked her today if she would want to date me again and she said she doesn't know and we had a conversation on the phone explaining that she just can't do it and feels hurt that i didn't say anything to her about it for the month that she gave me and it didn't matter that i was planning something because she wanted something simple. She says she might can consider being with me again but not for a long time. Yea, we're friends in all, but it's really not the same :/ she was my first kiss, the first loyal girl i could trust and see us going a long way, so it's very hard for me to forgive myself and hard to move on, idk what do...what do you think? Do you think i did something wrong?
I don't think she had any right to put a time-limit for something to happen in your relationship, but that just shows that she wasn't really that committed. Break ups are tough, but If she acts like that I think you are better off with someone else. I hate how girls expect so much from their man, but don't do anything in return. And she has to realize that even if you are together, you have your own lives apart from each other, and can't see each other or do things for each other 24/7. I work basically full time this summer, and my boyfriend is busy with farming, so we hardly see each other but it's still working for us.
As a lad reading this she seemed properly high maintanance and it seems similar ish to my break up a few months ago - she was ridiculusly clingy and I was fed up cus I like space and being single.
I don't know how old you are, and I'm sorry but i think you should try and move on slowly. Hang out with friends and get on with your life cus there's a girl out there you'll click with instantly and be together all the way through your lives but it's fun going out and meeting lots of girls, trust me!
You didn't do anything wrong. I think she just grew apart from you and she's just finding a reason to blame you for the break up so she doesn't seem like the bad guy. Don't kiss her a$$ when she's just playing you like that. Just because she was your first doesn't mean that she has to be your last. You did everything you could, so it's up to her if she wants to take you back. Just give it time, you'll be fine in the long run :)
You have to understand that some girls have to have constant attention, and I believe that your (now) ex is one of them. Clearly you love(d) her but it wasn't enough for her. She needed you to show her which you were planning on but by then, she already turned cold :(
I'm sorry. Break ups are hard but they do
happen, and in time you will get over it.
Yea :/ i guess you gals are right, well i really appreciate all the help you're given me throughout all this.
Thanks for the pick me up :) and i'm 16 by the way.
You welcome :))