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My dear- I’m having trouble understanding some of your wording. Could you be more clear? Does your mother have legal guardianship of your kids?? Of you? Are you worried that your mother has certain legal rights which she will abuse?

I know with custodial issues, courts take into consideration things like marital status, financial security, living situations, mental/emotional things & substance abuse, etc. Can your mother hold your deafness against you? Does she have hearing? Income? A spouse?

If you have legal issues, you should try looking in to legal help in your area. You should be able to find even free/pro-bono legal services, like at the Legal Aid Society. You are probably aware of local services for the deaf. You might find some legal resources through them. Maybe the NAD.org (National Association for the Deaf) could help.

Come to think of it- if you have a situation where you are being discriminated against because you’re deaf, then that’s a whole other thing and you should consider contacting such an advocacy group.

Very often, women clash more with mothers than men do. Like there’s a competition there or something. Maybe your mother’s mother was cold to her and she can’t find it in herself to be warm to her own daughter.

You are older now. You’re your own woman and a mother. You have to treat each other, and behave as adults. Sometimes its the child who teaches the parent. Sometimes we have to be the “bigger person” and try to reach out to them and give them the opportunity to be more human.

Good luck.