how to deal with a lover who points out your flaws ans other girls who are better lookin than you?

I’d show him the door….and that’s no joke. Say to him, “if you find me so flawed, and others so much better looking, then I think you need to go and be with those girls”. If he continues after you tell him that…then say goodbye, he’s a budding emotional abuser, and nobody deserves that.

its always the same thing with every guy though. your thighs are to round, your hair isnt blonde, your eyes are blue, and you have freckles and i honestly love this guy and hes already said if we were old enough i would get down on one knee bcuz i dont see myself with anyone else.

its always the same thing with every guy though. your thighs are to round, your hair isnt blonde, your eyes are blue, and you have freckles and i honestly love this guy and hes already said if we were old enough i would get down on one knee bcuz i dont see myself with anyone else.

Um…that is just a jerk you’re with im sorry but a guy shouldnt be pointing out your flaws or talking about how other girls are better. I would just break up with him. You are beautiful, an are a great person. But to get a little bit of revenge I would get some random guys and point out how much better they are than he ever was hehe jtot

No, its not every guy. Noone ive ever dated has dared pointed out any flaws of fine, i wish they would so i can backhand slap the stupid of their face :]

but the thing is ive loved him for 2 years and there are other girls who want him that i know will ruin his life and ive been helpin him put the pieces back together after his last x dumped him on their 6 month anniversary

for him anything he points out on another girl, i try to change so he likes it. and when his bff called me and said be quiet ill talk to him he insulted me by calling me chubby and a drama lover and then a major bitch i just dont know what to do

don’t try to change ir he doesn’t accept u for who u r he doesn’t love u

i agree with phrannie….show him the door!!!!!!!Sorry you go through with this jerk….oh wait I’m sorry I ment “sorry you WENT through with this jerk.”Typo…on purpose!

i just love him a d its so hard to let go bcuz he knows stuff about me know ones else does and its stuff that could kill me if anybody else found out

i cant let him go hes everything to me, but i just want him to understand that i hate that he points out my flaws

Ok, I understand that it may seem like it is hard to leave him because you feel that you love him, that because you ahve been loving for two years and you also fear for him, the other girls who would ruin him and the problems hes had before. But it is not your obto put up with this. You dont stay with someone that emotionaly abuses you because you are scared for him, that would be lying to yourself and to him. What are you goign to do marry someone that you know you wont beable to stand becuase you are scared for him? Youd ruin your own life. There are, however, otherways to help him, you can make sure that he knows thaty ouare there for him, an d that you guys can continu to be friends afterwards, it may be hard but definately doable. You deserve to be treated with respect and have a boyfriend who loves you for what you are and doesnt try to change you or emotionally abuses you.

Telling you on one hand that he’d marry you, and on the other that you’re flawed, and other girls are “prettier”, have blue eyes, not brown, have long legs not short, etc etc….is emotional abuse. He’s got you on a yo yo string. Lift you up, drop you down…lift you up…drop you down. I don’t see anything but control issues here…him controlling how YOU feel, instead you controlling how you feel. If you said to him to hit the door, and find one of those other girls, you may well shock him into learning a new way of being with you. If he doesn’t get it, then no loss.

You don’t know they will ruin his life (actually, he sounds like he has the ability to ruin his OWN life)…you’ve been in this relationship for two years. Right now, he has you where he wants you. To be really honest…you’re already sounding like you’re showing signs of that emotional abuse….that’s not love. The only way you can help another person is to be healthy yourself…

I agree with phrannie…you could find a dude who, I don’y know, actually CARES.

He is doing it mainly because he is insecure, so if he can make you doubt yourself you will feel like you can’t do any better than him (in a really weird f**ed up way). I agree with Phrannie when she says show him the door, because I guarantee he wouldn’t be able to pull any of those “hotter” girls he points out…and nobody is hotter than anyone else, everyone is unique and pretty in their own ways so don’t ever let someone tell you other people are better looking than you, and don’t ever BELIEVE it! I guarantee you have options so don’t sit around for this a$$hole to grow the hll up! I bet as soon as you dump this loser and get a new man that he is aware of he will be begging at your feet for you to take him back…

give him a peice of his own medecine, point out all the guys that are fit. Dont have sex with him for a while and give him the cold shoulder, if the relashion ship is goin to end and u know it, end it on ur terms not on his, :) x

just start pointing out other fit guys when he is around, no sex either and give him the cold shoulder aswell…eventually he will get the gyst. if u know that the relashionship is going to end then do it on ur terms and not his…..anyway this way is more fun, x

no, you point out his flaws talk bad to him then break up with him. y is he with you if all he all he sees is the negitive about u