what can my daughters therapist tell me?

yeah it does suck and thanks

If it’s something that needs to involve you, the therapist will ask you to sit in on a session.

It depends on the state you live in and the laws. The vast majority of the states give parents an all access pass to all records, which means legally you have the right to all her records (I dont know all the states laws but CA has the most favorable laws for children). But, that will do neither you nor her very much good. Therapy is to allow her to get help. Not for you to gain access into her personal life. And as hard as it is for you, that is her personal life. The therapist should have discussed confidentiality with you. I make it clear to all my parents (and if I were in private practice they’d be signing a document that explains this) that I will speak to them if and only if I feel that there is something that concerns me or something the child wants to share with them . Again, legally, yeah the parent can demand all the records and a therapist can’t do anything about it. But think about it. If you try to get information, she will shut down. Then no one gets anywhere.