Home More advice Parents & Family
I was in this position before, and it's hard to say the truth cause I never want to hurt my dad's feelings, esp since he doesn't get to see me a lot to begin with. But I love staying in my own room at my moms house that I have been living in, it has all my stuff there and it's just my comfortable. I'm sorry to say this but sleeping at my dad's would just not feel like I'm at home it feels like I'm away and I prob wouldn't be able to sleep well. plus I would want to see my friends and go out and party and have fun and make memories. esp since summer vacation only lasts soo long before school again, I wanna just enjoy myself and do my thing. I would spend a week with him, or go over some days during the summer, since i do live rather close to him also. I'm sure he will understand that you just did a lot of hard work for the school months and now you just wanna have fun and be with your friends, that your getting older and just wanna get out.
Oh this brings back memories..... My dad moved to Virginia and I like in MS. When I got a job here, he expected me to quit my job to go up there..... when I told him no, it led to a big fight....a BIG FIGHT... In the end I had to pull the card, I'm old enough to make a choice (I was 16 and legally could choose whose house I wanted to stay at).... The best thing I can say is if he lives close then compromise. If he lives far away like my dad, then you got to decide how bad do you not want to go and is it worth the consequences (like hurting your dad and possibly fighting etc.). However, if you are determined then you just got to be blunt and not back down. Good luck.
Try telling your dad the truth. Be upfront & say you would like to stay at his house & spend time with him for maybe a week or so, but not the whole summer. Tell him you want time with your friends, you have prior commitments, etc. Or, is there anyway your mom could help you get out of it? Tell her, & maybe she can say something to him. good luck.
I agree with chanelglit...then just tell him the truth as to why you dont want to spend time with him. Maybe you can work stuff out.
take up a class before hand so you can say I cant come I have a commitment to the class I paid for.
what if that does not work
