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I need to tough’n up I think im too soft and what not sometimes when I try to help someone (like a friend) and their acting like a complete hard@$$ I tend to think that their mad at me

I ask my one friend whats wrong they “oh it nothing” I ask are you mad at me she looked up and said “ you have such low confidece you need to tough’n up”

I know but how can I get people to trust me I dont like useing force to get people to talk I neeed tips ,advice , maybe life improving skills I don’t know

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Answer #1

Yea you don’t need to toughn’ up you just need to believe in yourself and see that you are a valuable person and that what ever advice you want to give someone is going to be coming from your heart and your personal experience and that if you say nothing at all it could make it worse. Instead of saying is there something wrong. Say look, I know there is something going on if you need to talk I am here for you I don’t want you to feel alone. Some people just won’t answer you if you say is there something wrong? you have to make them feel like they can tell you and believe that you genuinely are interested in what they are feeling and what they are about to say.

Answer #2

Trust is gained over time and by calmness. When you’re able to help yourself, you’re able to help others.

Or maybe your intentions are just mistunderstood. But I know you’re just trying to show that you care. :)

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