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I’m 19, my cousin is 14. At the beach she is hit on by guys older than me and has the body of girls my age. For the past 3 or 4 years we both have feelings for each other and when we were alone we’d cuddle or “accidently” feel each other up in the pool, but we have never told each other our feelings. The problem is once I turned 18 I got scared silly that I would end up jailbait and be hit on by older guys. So the past 2 years we still flirt but I haven’t laid a finger on her and I don’t want her to think I don’t care about her anymore. I want to wait until she’s 18 before getting involved physically. How can we keep the fire going until then? If I should tell her this what should I say?

I don’t care if anyone thinks cousins in love are sick, and don’t say I’m too old for her because I know that and I WANT to wait until she’s 18 and I’m 23.

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Answer #1

Don’t listen to them, and don’t feel bad about it. They’ve obviously just never been that closely involved with it. Dick Cheney was hardcore no gays until his daughter came out. But God can only be ironic with so many people, and usually just the important ones. Me and Ell have known some people in the same kind of situation. It happens a lot, cousins are close enough to have things in common but not close enough to have had a chance to hate eachother. Tell her your feelings and if she says she feels the same way, then keep it epistolary until you’re 23. Write letters and stuff, don’t keep them. Just burn them. No evidence, no crime. They exploit that law a little much anyway. Join a church that is not against it, there are quite a few, it just takes a little asking around, and not the congregation members, because they don’t know what they are saying. Ask the preachers at each church. I’m not Christian and you don’t have to be to go, but it’s really good for support with things like that. Good luck, Brian D.

Answer #2

Dear dukenukem, The whole thing is wrong, wrong, wrong…did I say wrong!!! This is family and a family member who is much younger then you. You have broke the family bond and well as you heading for trouble if you are at all interested in someone this young. You must stop…if you were to tell a family member that the two of you were involved what would they say…would they be happy and encourage the relationship. If you told friends about it would they say hey way to go and encourage it…NO on both accounts. I’m assuming you are either just out of school or at the end. Speak with a school counsellor to help or call your health clinic and set up an appointment there…you need to speak with someone who can help you realize that this is not proper behaviour and they can help you sort it out. Sue…good luck

Answer #3

hmmm blood relation is a problem

  1. its against the law
  2. shes your family for gods sake
  3. you have no future together what so ever you can wait all you want either you or she will get over it and move on…Physically is a nono I dont care if your 100 and she is 95 its against nature…do you want inbred children with huge DNA problems? I think not!
Answer #4

thats a tough one ummm well if you to actually feel the same way just be straight with her and ask her what you think you should do ??? if it is ment to happen it will??? 

         johnny b xxx
Answer #5

keep waiting and by the time you’re 23 you’ll be over it.

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