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I got a phone call from my ex girlfriend yesterday, asking me back out. I said I don’t know, and I will think about it. Since then, she has called about 3 times, and I told a family member to tell her I was out. I feel bad for avoiding her, but I just don’t know what to say. She cheated on me, and dumped me. That really hurt. The thing is, I like her. I would like to have her around again, to kiss her, and all that. The only thing I am worried about is that she is two years older than me, and would want s*x, and all those things. But, I am not ready for that. What should I do?

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Well you said that you were fairly young if that means your like 14 - 15 then generally in my expirience relationships dont weigh as much as when your older, going out with people sort of comes and goes. If you arent ready for sex then by no means do that just for her. Was she upset when she cheated? If she was say, crying then it shows that she really did care about you and she did one stupid thing, also the fact that she is asking you back out shows she cares (some people get cheated on then dumped and are asking the cheat back out!). If you like her and you dont think she will do it again then go for it if it will make you happy. How to deal with your fears is to talk to the other person, tell her that you miss her and you’d like to see her again but you wouldnt be ready for things like sex just yet, but you will get there in your own time. If you tell her your fears at the beginning then those fears cannot rear their ugly head later in the relationship.

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