okay, first of all let me start off by saying thanks for actually taking the time out to listen to my problem and give advice because this is really bothering me.
So I am going to try to tell you everythig and hope you have time to read it. it's a lot so plleeeaassseee bare with me and help me. :)
Ok, I met this guy in october.he initially asked me out but I couldn't go because my parents have me on lockdown(but that's another story) the funny part about the whole thing is that he was typing a resume on the computer one day and I stole his number off of it (I know, it's the dumbest thing I ever did and I never did it again) anyway I played on his phone and pretended to be another person until I finally admitted to him who I was.
When I told him who I was, he was upset, but he gave me the number to his line and we was talking ever since. he was such the sweetest, coolest, most down to earth person.
I felt like I could talk to him about anything. he made me laugh and gave good advice. he also shared. one day my backpack broke and I went to him to see if he had an old one I could borrow. he saidhe didn't have a old one but he let me use his own.he became upset when I tried to give it back even though I threatened to steal it because I liked it so much.
A couple days later, he gave me the combination to his locker and said it was for me in case I needed to get anything out. he has also shared his food with me, and was there for me. in our school, we have honor roll assemblies, and I asked him if he could be there. he said no, but surprised me. what made it better was that I was the only person he cheered for.
He also told me one time that if someone was to do something to me, as in hurt me, he would kill them. one time he actually came out and told me that he had deeper feelings for me than a friend. however I turned him down for good reasons, but that is not the reason he acts the way he does now because this behavior started a longtime ago that's why I call it "mood swings";.
One day he'll be the way I described and would appreciate me caling him and would show this by telling me to call back and don't forget. if I am going to be absent from school, he begs me to come and one time when I was absent he begged for me to come so much, that although I was absent from school, I went up there after school and my car broke down right there. he helped me fix it. if I tell him that I am not going to call him back, he gets an attitude.
One time we was talking and he told me that he loved me in his own special way but another guy loved me more(a guy who he always encourages the relationship between the two of us ) however sometimes I call him and he gives excuses. when I call him back, he'll say he's sleep or he's on the phone with someone else.
Sometimes in school he makes me feel like im invisible. he'll talk to eveyone else except me. one time I asked him if I bugged him, and he said "sometimes" where when I used to ask him that he'll say I didn't call him enough. in school sometimes, I speak and he acts as if he doesn't wantto speak back.
Sometimes I call his phone and he'll answer and when I say "what's up", he'll take a long time to say something back. to the point sometimes I have to say, "are you still there?" I play with him in school, and he gets serious. and I recognize that he does all this only to me.
He acts mean to me in school and go down the hall to the next girl or his best friend and smile and laugh. one time I confronted him about this and he said " they are just gurls I'm trying to sleep with. you are not" when I confront him about how I feel, that he's avoiding me sometimes or acting two-faced, he gets mad.he cuts me off, or tell me to call back.
Now I'm going to give you two incidents that happened recently 1) one time I called him and he told me that he just got in the house and to call back. I called back and the phone was busy. the next time he answered I asked him why the phone line was busy and he said he was talking to his ex and he backed it up by saying "u know I have to make time 4 her" and he asked me what time it was. I said 11:21. he said I have to get off this phone at 11:30 and do some homework.
I said okay, iwas going to make the call short and call you at another time anyway. he said why and I said because I have something to do to. he said okay and told me to make sure I dont forget to call back. so I said I am going to 4get that ish becaue I was mad that he hurt my feelings by what he said.
So he replied by saying fuc*** u (in a playful way). we hung up. so I forgot to ask him something and called back to ask him, after I asked him, I said what are udoing anyway? he said putting microsoft word on my computer. iwas like I am going to let you go because I know you have to jump on the phone. you tell me stuff to avoid me and it doesn't even bother me anymore and I told him bye.
I called back because I wondered if I was right. the phone line was again busy. so in the past he has told me if my phone line is busy, call my cell if you want, so that's what I did. when he answered, I asked him "so I guess your homework assignment was to talk on the phone? he said yes and told me that I was playing games and going on and on. after that he stayed mad at me for a week and gave me silent treatment.
Should I had ended the friendship then? 2) I called his house one night and he was not home. so his brother answered who I am also cool with. we talked and was still talking when dante got home. when he came in he asked his brother whoit was and his brother said india. he replied by saying, who india from coolidge? and his brother said no india arie? (being sarcastic)and gave him the phone. he sounded very agitated when he answered and told me to hold on. he put his brother back on the phone and went in is room and slammed the door.
That's when I told his brother what he had been doing and I also told him tat although I never met him and only talked to him on the phone, I felt a better connection with him than his brother. and his brother told me that I was too nice and basically all dante was doing is taking advantage of me. he also said that dante has very bad mood swings.
The next day I called and the first time he said, I'm cleaning up. the next time, he said I'm lying down . so I asked him, are you lying down or you just don'twant to be bothered? he said both but backed it up with "call me back late" I told him no and that when he wants to be bothered again, come to me. so in school, the next day he tried to talk to me but I didn't talk back and I stopped talking to him in school and calling him 4 almost a week.
I just started calling him back thursday. he's doing the same thing. what should I do? we've been going thru this throughout the whole friendship and I think it's time for me to end it. don't u? But something keeps holding me back.and then another guy told me that dante and I will never get along anyway because he's a leo and I'm a scorpio. I don't know what to do now because I feel used. I've been there for him with money, doing schoolwork for him and everything.
As a matter of fact, tonight I am going to ask him if he wants to be a friend of mine or not.this is depressing me because he was a person who used to take away the pain, now he gives it.
I've alsobeen going thru a lot at home. like I wasn't ven able to attend prom. I'll let you know the answer. thanx again India
YOU DONT NEED HIM-
I SEE MANY GIRLS CRYING ABOUT THESE GUYS WHO TREAT THEM GOOD AND MAKE THEM FEEL LIKE A GODDESD FOR A WEEK-
THEN WHEN THE GUYS WANT SOMETHING NEW-
YOU HAVE ENOUGH TO DEAL WITH- LIKE YOUR PARENTS, SCHOOL AND EVERYTHING ELSE-
YOU WOULDNT WANT A GUY TO MAKE YOU MORE STRESSED OUT THEN YOU ALL READY ARE-
YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY AND IF HE IS GOIN TO PLAY AROUND WITH YOUR HEAD LIKE THAT THEN YOU NEED TO STOP WASTING YOUR TIME
DONT GIVE HIM THE COLD SHOULDER- YOU THINK HE WILL REALLY CARE IF YOU IGNORE HIM WHEN HE IGNORES YOU ANYWAY?!
HE IS HAVING A GOOD TIME PLAYIN WITH YOUR HEAD, WHILE HE IS HANGIN WITH OTHER GIRLS HES MESSIN WITH YOU-
DONT JUS LISTEN TO WHAT THE GUY SAYS BUT THE FEELING HE GIVES YOU-
HE MAKES YOU FEEL GUITLY? AND DEPRESSPED? RIGHT?
WELL YOU DONT NEED TO FELL THAT WAY-
MEET NEW PEOPLE, HANG OUT WITH THEM- GET SOME REBOUND, AND DONT EVER TRUST A GUY WITH YOUR WHOLE HEART.
BE SMART, DONT BE SORRY FOR SOME GUY- THERE ARE PLENTY MORE OUT THER
DONT BOTHER TALKIN TO HIM, HES PROB TALKIN BAD ABOUT YOU TO HIS FRIENDS, SINCE HES GOT NO RESPECT FOR YOU
THE GOOD DAYS WERE THE BETTER DAYZ THEN, NOW YOUVE GOTTA MOVE ON-
DONT LET SOME GUY PUT YOU DOWN. BE STRONGER AND PULL AWAY FROM HIS STUPIDNESS, I KNO HOW YOU FEEL, I MEAN I WAS REALLY IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY, AND WE DATED AND ALL, BUT WHEN WE BROKE UP IT WAS SO HARD, THINKIN ABOUT HIM AND HEARTBROKEN AND ALL
BUT IT TAKES ALOT FOR ME TO CRY- IVE SEEN CRAZY SHIT HAPPEN IN MY FACE SO LIKE ME YOU CAN BE STRONG- PUT HIM ASIDE AND BRING YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY CLOSER-
YOU DONT NEED HIM.
Wow, he sounds as confused are you seem to be about him. Hey, it sounds like you are a young person with your whole life in front of you.
Why waste it with one person who "gives pain"?
Go hook up with someone who doesn't give pain and make your life easy (unless you give some pain yourself).
He does not seem to be worth the time and the effort. You seem to have some kind of crush on this guy because he treated you kindly at the start. He is obviously very immature and does not know how to treat you right.
Here's a tip, give him the cold shoulder for a few days (just ignore him -- the discipline of it will also do you good), and see how he reacts. If you can stand being without him for a few days, then you can stand being without him forever.
well if u r gonna b friends good luck but if you dont he probley just mad cause you turned hom down i mean he had feelings for u and somehow u didn't its not a bad thing you just weren't intereasted but if he gives you the silent treatment he wants something call him talk the fight friendship over and if he uses a back up tell him no i need to talk to u now just listen and talk it over you will probley never love eachother but i think i know u will always b friends he is sitll that guy that share food, locker and the person who helped fix ur car and begged u to come to school but you just a have to find that back in him before he doesn't believ that he has got a good best friend so GOOD LUCK!!!
This guy is being a total jerk to you.
you sound like a nice person.
maybe you should just aly off calling him or talkig to him (eventhough it's hard) if he really values your friendship he will make an effort to talk to you if not there are WAY better people out the rfor you to be friends with.
Don't let anyone treat you this way-ever. Dont not bend your self backwards for someone who doesn't respect you. He doesnt respect you or your friendship and he's too concerned with himself to be worried about if he is hurting you or not...just let it go.
this guy sounds like a real loser... u sound pretty cool n he sounds like he wants to go out with u but when u say no he gets mad n treats u like dung....i'd get rid of him ina hurry.......
even though thisis from like 4 years ago good luck lol......peace holla
girl all i got to say is get over him and leave his ass alone cause all he is doin is playin wit u but i would ak him waz up wit the way he act and just go on form there
HESE PROBABLY STIRING you UP WHEN HESE GETTIN DOWN WITH OTHER GURLS SO STUFF HOM