Who should I choose?

First of all, you shouldn’t be seeing two people at once, but “to each, his own”,I guess. Secondly, breaking up with someone whom you’ve got an amazing relationship with, by the looks of it, just because he’s “broke and has two kids” is beyond messed up and heart-less.
My father is pretty much broke with two children too, but he is the most amazing person in the entire world and I am not just saying that because he’s my father. He over looks the things that I do wrong, always forgives, takes it when people walk on him and treat him like sh!t, and always makes sure he never has hate for anyone. Is he a bad person for not being rich and care free without any problems? Do you have a job? Excuse me, if you do. Why does it always have to be the man in the relationship who has to be the supporter and the one to bust their as*? It should be both people meeting half way. Females, even though I am one, are all just about of users and abusers. Anyway, to answer your question with a little more clearity, it pretty much comes down to this: Do you want someone you’re going to fight with beacause they’re doing well for themselves and you want in on that action, or do you want to be with someone who “treats you like gold”, but doesnt have any materialistic things to offer you, only love?

-M

I think that this is something you need to decide for yourself. If it was my decision, though, I would take a step back to think this through. Does the guy you’re with make you happy? Can you see a future with him? Is the “baby mama drama” too much for you?

The fact of the matter is his ex wife will always be in the picture. As long as they have children together, she’ll never be away completely. So you need to decide whether or not that’s something you can accept.

As for his job, if it bothers you, you should talk to him about it. Ask him if he can try finding a job. Let him know how it makes you feel. There’s no guarantee that he’ll change, but if he does have two children, he should at least work to provide for them..

If you can’t really decide who to go with - choose neither for now. You don’t need a relationship to be happy. Go solo for a while and give yourself some time to explore and meet people. When you’re ready to be with someone, whoever it is, have at er. Until then, though, just enjoy your time. There’s no rush. (:

it’s all on you. Do whats BEST, and in my opinion I think you should really think about who you picture yourself with. Think about who would treat you better and most importantly with Respect.But most of all. . . who do you have Feelings for the most!

or if it’s better be Independent for a while :) . . . Goodluck.

I think if you really can’t decide then you need to take a step back from both for a while and see who you miss more and so on. You could make a pro and con list for each of them, but personally I feel that may not work as this needs to be based on how you feel. Someone can look bad on paper, but you love them and that is all that matters.

I think you just need to remember to be fair to both men. There is no reason to leave your current partner unless you are unhappy or feel you will be happier elsewhere. You need to give your relationship with him a chance before you leave and talk to him about things that concern you. If you do not try to make it work with everything you have, then you may always have regrets, especially if you end up breaking up with the guy you left him for.

Put your ex to the back of your mind and assess if you are happy and if your relationship can work. It sounds like your partner really loves you, so do not risk losing that unless you are sure. If your ex will not leave your head or you get unhappy though, then you owe it to the man you are with to leave so he can find someone who is willing to love him back as intensly as he loves them.

Their right your heart can only chose, but my advice is this: There was a reason you broke up w/ your ex. So don’t just drop your guy for him. Anyway sounds like the person you got is golden KEEP HIM