can they make me shave?

ok so I grew a pretty full beard and my dad is making all these threats towards me till I shave. He’s saying like I can’t go anywhere, he’s going to cut off my phone, just all this bull. And it’s not even so much that I like my beard and I have to have it. It’s the point that I don’t like that he thinks he can control my body. It’s not like I’m doing drugs it’s a f**kin beard. Oh and it also doesn’t help that he has the longest moustache ever and he’s telling me to shave.

So:

Can he force me to shave? what are somethings I should say to him? Is it a law that I have to shave if he wants me to?

Answer #1

I raised a son, mostly by myself. I learned early on to pick my battles carefully. It sounds to me that your dad has reached the point where he wants to control something, anything about you. It is very difficult for a parent to let a child go. To realize that we just need to stop, step back and allow them to begin making some decisions on their own. I am a progressive, liberal mom and still I found it extremely hard. It is hard even now and my son is 29. I say, sit down with your dad and ask him why it means so much to him. Don’t yell, don’t say his reasons are stupid, etc. just listen to him. Then tell him why you like your beard. It sounds like egos and will are involved in this battle from BOTH of you. Maybe he never realized that you just might have grown the beard because when you were young, you really liked his facial hair. But, the argument of “the body is beautiful and everything that comes from it as well” is NOT the one to make. Vomit isn’t beautiful, neither is feces or mucous. Give that argument a rest. Actually, give the argument a rest. That will get you no where. Tell him why you like the beard and be reasonable and don’t yell. Also, just for my own info, is it a nice beard or one of those gross, wirery caveman beards. If it is, cleaning it up might help him to ease up a bit.

My son also learned early on to pick his battles.

Answer #2

It’s alright you can get mad at me, you’re just an angsty teenager its better you take that angst out on a stranger on the internet than your own parents.

Answer #3

If you don’t care - then no there’s nothing he can do.

Realize though - that he can make you life harder and more miserable if you choose to deny him.

Answer #4

That IS NOT the same thing. You can NOT stop having a period, you can shave your face though.

It’s your parents house and your parents rules whether you like it or not.

Answer #5

If you live under his roof - he can force you too by taking away your privledges and not letting you do things.

You are a minor living under your parents roof - it’s their rules until you are 18.

Answer #6

haha, no, there isn’t a law saying guys aren’t allowed to grow beards…your dad is kinda over reacting. tell him if he wants you to shave- he has to shave himself! I hate it when parents try and control what you look like, as well as your life. its so annoying..just stay out the house for a while :)

Answer #7

Ha tell him to stick it were the sun don’t shine. Actually don’t cause then you never will win him over. He can’t force you to shave and if someone told you that its a load of bull cr*p! If you want the beard, keep the beard, stuff your dad ( no offence ). He cant stop you even if you want a beard as long as the floor. But try talking to him even though you probaly have already. Sit him down and explain how you feel but be really nice other wise he will never approve. :) good luck x

Answer #8

It is his house…not doing it is only going to cause more problems. When you live with your parents you need to do what they want. And staying out of the house isn’t going to solve anything, if anything it will only get you into more trouble.

I agree that it is hypocritical but you live with him, he’s the parent. Sometimes you need to swallow your pride and do what your parents want.

Answer #9

tell him that if you cant have your beard, then your girlfriend is going to come kick his butt. :] <3

Answer #10

you sound like a little brat, listen to your parents

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