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hi angel, my break up has been very difficult for me and you seem to be the one that helps me out the most, thank u, well I did what you said and asked my ex how she feels, and her answer was basically shes confused, she might love me but she want to be more than regular friends, such as maybe friends wit benefits but shes not certain. Basically to me it just sounds she just wants me to forever be a part of her life because quote on quote it feels lonely without me, any comment to that?
She MIGHT love you? Either she does, or she doesnt. Love isnt a maybe thing!
At this point, thats exactly what it sounds like...you are just a backup........in case she doesnt find someone else down the road. I can understand one partner, having simply used the other, not having a problem switching to a friendship but can two people simultaneously just not give a damn if the relationship ends? "You broke my heart and shattered my dreams but, hey, we can still be friends." I get the impression there wasn't much of a relationship there to begin with.
Being friends with benefits would be the wrong thing to do, because it will only leave you with more doubts, and it will only make you want her more! Right now what you should do is try to get over her because honestly, someone that can say i dont want to go out with you, but wants to use you sexually is someone you dont want to have. You dont have her there to comfort you with a relationship so why should you be there for her to mess around with when she has no one else to turn to? She isn't worth the worry.
At the end of a relationship, there are only two directions we can go. We either grow in our ability to love, or we begin a gradual decline. Our challenge in starting over is to release our pain with forgiveness, understanding, gratitude, and trust. Saying goodbye in this way eventually leaves us feeling good about ourselves, our future, and our past. Although this is easy to say, it is more difficult to put into practice.
I have been exactly where you are, and as hard as it was, i chose to move on from all that stress, and i am so glad i did. I have a much better sense of who i am now.
Dont let her consume your life anymore. You could be missing out on the one you really should be with!
Well I know your not talking to me but I think she's just trying to get you back because she's not ready to let go.
sounds more like to me a fallback plan
