My boyfriend has horrible OCD and now it's to the point where he feels like I'm contaminated, and he don't want to hug or kiss me or even touch me unless I get a shower ): it's so sad and it hurts so bad. I don't know what to do, I love him so much but I can't handle that, it makes me feel like he doesn't love me enough.
There's nothing you can do.
OCD is not as easy as "hey, you're doing it again".
There is a thin line between OCD & insananity. One of the few differences is the fact that the person with OCD knows what they're doing & knows that it's illogical but they literally cannot help it . By not following through on a "ritual" to ease a "tik" can set of aevere anxiety, sometimes to the point of having panic attacks.
A simple example would be when I Had to lock my doors 4 times, if I didn't robbers would come in & rob & kill everyone. I knew it was illogical, but I literally had to do it or I would have a panic attack. Or before I go to bed I have to wash my hands 3 times give or take depending on the level of cleanliness the house is that I'm in, & I can't touch more than 3 things before my hands are theory dry & I get in the bed, otherwise I have to get up & wash them again or else I"ll get things in my eyes. It's silly, I know, but I literally cannot help this.
We don't lik eit anymore than anyone else, probably less. Though him having it to such an extent, he needs help, but the only one who can get it is him. Talk to him, let him know how you feel & ask him if he can seek help. Don't be accusing or patronizing. I'm sure he already knows it's silly and irrational, but again, it's something that cannot easily be helped. Don't take it personally. I know it's a hell of a lot easier said than done, but the most important thing to remember is that he's NOT doing it TO you. It's something that's not right with him, so don't take it personally.
Sit down & talk, really talk, not yell or argue. Express how you feel and gently persua him to get help. I wish you best of luck in your endeavor
This is more common than you might expect.
I had exactly the same problem with several partners, while I was working as a forensic pathologist, despite the fact that I habitually showered weekly, whether I needed to or not.
Your boyfriend needs to go see a therapist or someone that can help him over come his OCD because it is not going to help your relationship at all. He needs to take care of his issues.
Tell him you are a little frustrated with him. My whole family has OCD. We just say, "Hey, could you not act like that around me?" It hits them with reality and they kinda "wake up".
I agree with Iffy. He should go see someone who will help him over come this. You'll have to be patient and try talking it out with him as well maybe.