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I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and for about two months now he will go days without communicating with me. I have talked to him numerous times about communicating with me and putting in effort and he says he will or he makes up an excuse. He works 30 hours a week and is a full time student so I understand that he's busy and needs time to relax and be alone and i respect that. He is an introvert and likes to be alone and is very shy and uses her personality type to justify why he doesn't respond to my calls or texts. Personally, I don't think that it's okay to ignore your girlfriend, that's not how a relationship works. He used to be very good at communicating, it's just been recently. I don't know if it's because he's just comfortable with me or if he is over me- he says he loves me and wants to be with me he just needs time to himself. I say that he can have all the time to himself but at least communicate with me and say hey I'm tired I'm going to go relax but he never does. What do I do? I have talked to him about this many times and I'm exhausted and fed up with it. I love him and will fight for him but I need to respect myself...
I think he might be comfortable with you. As with most relationships in the beginning we tend to spend all our free time, any time we can, make time even with our significant other. At the beginning of the relationship is when most people try hardest. Hell, with my relationship, I saw him daily in the beginning, not so much now. I think his comfortableness with you combined with the fact he is so busy with work and school is what is making him talk to you less. Whereas in the beginning, although he was probably dead tired all the time still, he was trying to woo you and so was trying hard to talk to you often or see you often, but now that he's got you, he's comfortable with you and feels like you understand. I can totally understand what you are saying though, sometimes a simple "hello" would be sufficient if they need time alone for the rest of a day or a simple, as you said "I'm tired". Unfortunately, most you can do is talk to him, or if this is just something you cannot take anymore, leave. Be more firm with him this time. Tell him that you are getting fed up and exhausted with it but explain that you do understand and sympathize and care that he is tired and busy. Tell him how much it really is affecting you and how it is making you question whether or not he is over you. Hopefully, he will put a little more effort in, if not, you've got a choice.
To be really honest, thats what my relationship was like. We would talk everyday at the beginning but slowly it started getting less. It came to a point hwhere we wouldnt talk for like 3 weeks.. But when we did talk, he'd tell me he loved me but that he was oo busy. In the end, we broke up because he said that he had lost his feelings and that us not talking had maintained a distance between us. :/ i cant really say for sure about ur relationhip but i do advise you to talk to him about it once and for all. Tell him that u know he is busy and he needs time but also tell him how you feel. Be honest. If he really does love you then im sure he will try his best to work something out. Goodluck.
