Well, me and my partner have been together for 2yrs now & only last feb he was just released from jail (he was in jail for months). And ever since hes done the following things: 1) hes had inappropriate pic of girls (mostly porn stars) even though I send him sexy pics & all. 2) whenever I turn him down for sex he gets really angry and then shuts me out. He never did this before & I'm worried. 3) we were having sex & his phone starts ringing & he answers it & decides to have a whole convo whilst on the phone to this other chick in a tone I've never heard before. 4) I've also found that hes very secretive. When his phone rings he leaves the house & answers it. Am I some paranoid freak? 5) one occasion he called, we had a brief convo and as he was about to hangup, out of nowhere he starts talking about how nice this girls ass is & how perfect it is (they happen to be really close) & upon hanging up he refused to say 'I Love You' but kept bragging on about her butt. 6) Also when ever he'd go out I'd ask him what he'd be doing, because I'd always hear girls in the background. he'd ignore me & hang up & I don't like feeling paranoid. Cos its probably just nothing, but I must add I am pregnant with his child & I have one a week & 4 days left. So it could just be my hormones. 7) Because I have recently left him to visit family overseas, we engage in phone sex, because he wants to but when I start, a couple seconds later he gets all uninterested & tells me to stop then starts to watch porn. whats wrong? I can't ask him because he just gets all angry & shuts me out of course, so I don't bring it up. Is it just me? I dont know what to do. And I dont know what it is? --.--
Dear god.... your blind in a way that only a 16 year old can be....I'm just going to compile a list here and make it easier for you.
Your: - 16 years old - in a toxic relationship with a criminal - pregnant with said criminals child - metaphorically setting on fire any hope or possibility of a normal happy future for yourself. - But quite possibly the saddest thing on this list is that your on a website called "fun advice" asking complete strangers who's expertise is pretty much limited to "who else loves Justin bieber?" And "why does my dog lick himself?" Advice on whether or not this is normal.
This is not normal. This is a horror story. I remember vividly being 16 and stupid so pay attention.
Want some real advice?
1.Get a goddamn guidance councillor. 2. leave your deadbeat boyfriend today and dont look back. 3. I don't know where your living and I dont care, but if your at your parents house,stay PUT. If not, go BACK. 4. Figure out how your going to raise that kid... do you even have a job? Income whatsoever? Education? How in the name of jumping Jesus are you going to feed and provide for this kid for the next 20 odd years?...
Look You may not want to hear this but it's definitely worth exploring...there are plenty of mature, financially stable and loving couples out there who can't have children of there own and are looking to adopt look into it with the aforementioned guidance councilor. I dont know how adoption laws work in your state or wherever your from.
I'm blunt, because your at a crossroad kid. Either you follow the signs to civilization or you simply keep walking the path your on deeper into the woods.
I'm rooting for ya
He came back from Jail, the things he does is the expansion to the contraction he had to face while he was behind the bars. People who return from jail, are psychologically crippled and disoriented from the mainstream society. It's actually quiet usual for people having come out of jail to behave like that - it's if he behaved absolutely normal that would be abnormal! . In any case, staying or trying to sustain a romantic relationship with such an individual before he's given proper time to settle in psychologically, mentally and emotionally with everything can prove out to be VERY destructive - no for him but for yourself. . I will advice it's best for you to break away from him, and at least if you don't want to do that, create some distance - for awhile. . I like to be really honest so I'll not let you off the hook here: It's almost impossible for you to be able to sustain a 'normal' relationship with him. Also, it can be quiet dangerous because people returning from jail lack a certain degree of self control and CAN flip out in a violent manner. . Like I mentioned, it'd be best for you to break up. But, ultimately you have to decide. . --Andrew . P.S: All of what I wrote is what I read somewhere (don't remember where), I personally have never met anyone who's been to jail or have no idea what they go through. So, I can't really guarantee the accuracy of the advice as it's 'second hand' so to speak.
I think you have very good reason to be suspicious, I don't think that's paranoia but more like instinct. Everything you have listed sounds suspicious and seems to imply, well a very unhealthy relationship. Quite frankly, I would be paranoid about cheating or something similar as well. And honestly, that's not a relationship I would stay in at all, he does not, at all, seem to have any sort of devotion to you, does not treat you with any respect. I, personally, wouldn't stand for any of that stuff at all.
He sounds like a total a-hole. That sucks, he's unsupportive and is probably cheating on you or will cheat on you if he's talking to other girls like that.
Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship, honestly if I were you, i would stop wasting my time