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What does he mean by this statement?

I have a se.x buddy with no strings attached anyway… boys what does it mean if my buddy says to me over text that “se.x for guys should not be easy to get” why he says that is because I dont think he dont have the se.x drive…he dont have the time for him to want se.x so it got no atmosphere, but he says their is no problem with it and I know that by the actual se.x and when he cu.ms…what shall I do to help him get a better drive or can you explain what he means in the statement above and what I can do.

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Answer #1

I disagree. I don’t see anything in your post that implies you want a relationship with him. There is nothing wrong with a completely sexual relationship, so long as both parties are open about what they want, what they expect, and what their boundaries are. I’d say that your guy is battling this concept in my mind. Either that or you are just wearing him out. You can’t expect him to satisfy your needs all the time. There is nothing wrong with going solo.

There are a lot of people that believe that casual sex is wrong. Personally, if you are safe and are prepared to deal with any consequenses, then go for it. You both seem to be using each other for sex… isn’t that what you meant by no strings attached?
Try asking him straight up what he means. If you are open enough with him to have a friends with benefits relationship, then don’t play these games.

Answer #2

It actually means that if you want to find a real man, who will respect you, who will care about you and treat you right, you can’t be too easy. your sex buddy said ‘sex for guys should not be easy to get” he is saying that he doesn’t see you as anything more than a sex buddy which basically means that he feels like he can treat you like a “toy”(he will play with you until when he wants and just throw you in the corner until he wants to play with you again, and that’s not how a man treats a lady he respects.)He is saying you are too easy which means you spread your legs apart too fast when you just meet a guy. The best advice my mother ever gave me was( “always put sex on the back burner when you meet a guy try to get to know him as much as possible and spend time with him without having sex, because sex will happen anyway it’s only natural, so make him wait.)

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