BIG LIAR WHILE BIG SPENDER

Hi. While most wouldn’t consider my situation abusive, I feel abused. My husband squanders our money & spends it on God-knows-what while I need doctor’s appointments, prescriptions, & co-pays for treatment of anxiety & depression. He was awarded a $50,000 settlement for a back injury & blew half of it on nothing he has any show for! He constantly lies about where our money goes & doesn’t provide receipts for proof. I’ve taken control of our cash, & now he is very bitter & resentful toward me. I’ve had to follow this route because we have a four-year & a baby on the way, & if I allow him to carry on this bad habit, I believe it”ll contribute to my depression.

      I've tried to be sweet & understanding, but he takes my kindness for weakness & finds room to sneak out more money & fit in more lies, so now I'm playing hardball!  I have to:  I'm a Mom!  He's been advise to hand over his paychecks.  If he needs a certain amount of money for the work-week then I must approve the amount & reason ie.  coffee & lunches can just be brought fom home.  (I was the bread-winner two years of our marriage & brought my own lunches from home - - even pregnant & around restaurants with scrumptious food!)  Do you think  my new method is too domineering?  Am I being too controlling myself?