I know homosexuality is wrong and that's what I was taught to believe. But I believe I am attracted to guys and girls, I'm not sure what to do. I tell myself I'm straight because I know it's the right thing but then I just feel like I am denying myself. I'm afraid it's a sin though and if I really am bi, I don't know how I will ever come out... :( Please help.
Hi Julia, I'm not quite sure what sect of Chrstianity you are, but regardless, several years in Catholic school taught me this. What the Catholic church is opposed to in same-sex relationships is the fact that they cannot reproduce. What they say is that sex is for married couples, as well as for the purpose of reproduction, even unplanned it is the chance of reproduction, it is the same reason that condoms and contraceptives are not to be used and if you want to prevent pregnancy, you watch your ovulation cycle. You can read more about it in one of their encyclicals which is written by the Pope, (which one, I can't remember but I'm sure the internet will find it for you!)
Now in regards to what you are going through, I think it's much more common than you'd think. Especially at the age you are at, fueled by hormones and curiousity, anything sexual can cause excitement. Sexuality isn't completely black and white. There are plenty of men and women who are attracted to the same sex but it doesn't neccessarily mean they want to date or go into relationships with them. Whether this is your or not, you're at the stage where you are curious and hormonal so it's natural that you'll be curious. And let's face it, the female body, especially with all the overly-stimulating images seen these days, is more sexual than the male body. Just give yourself time to figure out your own sexuality, as you grow and mature, you'll find your tastes changing, I know I did A LOT.
In addition, you know I am a Christian myself as well. There is much debate about whether or not the Bible does state that it is a sin or not, some say that when the verse saying something along the lines of (I can't remember the verse) "man shall not lay with another man", some say it refers to Pagan temple prostitution, some say it has to do with how back then women were "possessions of man" and when a man is to lay with another it should not be as if he were to have it with an equal, and so many other interpertations. Personally, I don';t bother to interpert that, all I know for certain si that he is all-loving, anyone, any color, raece, wahtever.
You come out the same way my sister did when she told my mom she was a lesbian.
Look, no matter which way you look at it, you're attracted to the same sex as well as the opposite sex. Personally, I dunno why your loving God would just stop loving you cause you love more than one his "marvelous" creations but that's another argument I won't go into.
Right now, though, you shouldn't feel as though it's wrong. Quite frankly, that's pretty darn normal if you ask me but perhaps you're asking the "wrong" person. However, right now you're simply speculating that so why don't you speculate a little further? Kiss a girl or something I dunno. See if you like it. If you do then question answered, if you don't, well still, question answered.
Hey as a fellow Christian myself and being bisexual i thought maybe i could give you some advice. I told my parents and they said that they didn't mind an that they love me all the same also when talking to the pastor at the church i go to who i know very well and we were talking about homosexuality and Christian beliefs and he was saying that the church i go to it may be different for you but he said that they would never turn anyone away for being homosexual and that the church would support you, although i'm still not entirely sure about that but hopefully i can tell Chris the pastor sometime or intruduce them idk but best of look hope this in anyway helped. :)
First, I know that it is not uncommon for girls your age to be confused about their preferences. Do not feel that you have to decide anything right now. You have a lot of growing up to do. And you will probably find that you are not bi. Stay with group dates, do your best in school, and continue on with college if you can. Take care, and Good Luck!!
In the interest of full disclosure, I am an atheist. (Also a father and a compassionate person.) But the advice I am passing along comes from a famous NON-atheist doctor that has given LOTS of relationship advice over the past 25 years.
I used to believe that homosexuality is against what God wants for us. Heterosexuality is natural and necessary for humanity. I know a young man who came out a year ago. Gorgeous young man. I can see that he is attractive but I do not wish to be a homosexual with him. If you are finding people attractive it is okay. Arousal is a different story. Arousal would suggest that you are interested in sex with that person.
Incidentally, I am NOT saying you can't be bi. It is simply that in your teen years there are lots of pressures and confusion, and as you mature that settles down and it becomes easier to determine how you truely feel.
I was the same way before I married my husband. Just do what feels right to YOU. don't let others beliefs put you down. Besides if god didn't want homo's he would have only made 1 guy and 1 girl... :(
Hi Julia, I think it is normal to go through curiosity at your age and wonder what things are like and come on who doesn't like to look at a good looking girl? and everyone I think likes boobs.
Homosexuality and bisexuality is not wrong. Listen to the song Same Love by Macklemore, it may help you <3
Homosexuality is wrong, if your trying to live in accordance to the Christian religion.
It will happen in time and you will grow into it if that is who you are x
homosexuality is not wrong in anyway its normal and soo what if your bi
Oh I remember now, it's the Humane Vitae.