My 11yr old step-daughter has come to her dad and me several times about moving in with us. she finally got up the nerve to ask her mom and she said "no, I'm not ready for you to move out" is it just me or does that seam selfish. my daughter is always telling us that she is not happy there and she feels like she is pushed aside as she is the only child in the house that doesn't "belong" to her step-dad. she asked us not to go to court because she doesn't want to up set anyone at her mom's house. she just seems to be very stressed out about this situation and she's too young to be stressed about anything!
any advise for me or her?
That's an awful situation.
I'm sure we all agree that what is best for the child is what is important here, and not what the various parents and other adults want for themselves.
I don't know what the legal and community advice situation is where you live, but aren't there some neutral, responsible people you could talk with, to try to find a solution without taking it to court? That is a final way out, but tends to involve bitterness that can last for years - on all sides.
The way things are, it certainly doesn't sound fair for your step-daughter. I wish you the very best of luck!
I am in the same situation as her, parents divorced, and wanting to move out and everything, I just think that it will alll b over in a few years, and to deal with it for now if she really wants to move out, have her take it to court. it may upset her mother a bit, but at least she will be happy in the long run. whatever house satisfies her need, and wil help her live a better life, I advise she lives in. she should do what make her happy. thats all I can really say. good luck with the situation
I went through the same situ. w/ my step-son, it got to apoint that he was raising cane all the time and she could'nt take it anymore... So he now lives w/ us, but he's really unhappy here too , because we and more rules than mom, ya know I think he thought it was going to be a party, like on dad's weekend , and now, he's still not satisfied. I think the best thing you can do is go w/ the flow, something has to give , I just hope it works out for you girl, it's about her, not her mom.Good Luck
All I can say is that the little girl can make up her own mind. If her dad is on the birth certificate then there isnt anything the mum can do about it. You need to sit down and talk to them all everyone all together and help the mum understand that it isnt always about her. the little girl comes first.
