Being more assertive

Well, the problem is that I’m too much of a damn push-over!!! I’ll give you some examples of my “ door-mat” manner:

A friend and I walked up to the convenience store over our lunch break at school. You have to wait in line to get in the store because the owners don’t like too many people in at once ( they could steal). So, me and my friend got in line and these 2 guys just walked right in front of us—-AND THEN HAD THE NERVE TO LOOK AT US AND SMIRK!!!
I was standing in the cafeteria line at school and there were these guys standing behind me and all of a sudden, one of them just walked right in front of me, with a stupid grin on his face.
We were painting in art class and I left some of the supplies out ( I was planning on cleaning it up before the end of class) and this girl was like, “ Excuse me, you should pick that up, you’re not aloud to leave it there,” ( she said that in a very prissy, high n’ mighty tone), I ignored her, then she told the teacher who made me pick it up. That girl had nor eason to have anything against me, and I STILL didn’t do anything.
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 Anyways, those events and COUNTLESS others have mouldes me into what I am today, a full-flegded push-over!!! How can I stop being this way, I'm tired of being walked all over! I'm placid by nature, but ENOUGH  IS ENOUGH!
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Answer #1

Hmm…. you do need to find a healthy way to confront people. You should also learn to let your opinion be known to these people that are bothering you.

I have serious anger issues as a result of a similar behavior pattern that has taken me years of therapy to see. But remember that there are always jerks in the world that look for people to try to take advantage of. This is a result of a poor upbringing, but there is nothing we can do to change these jerks except to put them in there place when the time is right.