turn on my boyfriend just a little? I want to start out kissing.. and I know I'm too young for sex and all that, I'm saving myself. So as I was saying, I want to start out kissing, but I don't want it to lead anywhere. I just want to get him aroused a little.. He's coming round my house to watch a film on Saturday.. at a time where my parents are out shopping, so we will be alone. I know how to cuddle and all the hygiene stuff by the way.. I said I was going to dare him to do something, when he is round my house, but he doesn't know what it is.. at the moment we only do short goodbye kisses, so I think I'm going to dare him to kiss me for longer.. how many seconds should I dare him to kiss me for? I was thinking around 4 seconds? maybe 5? I want the dare kiss, to lead to something more. No further than making out of course! If it does get to making out/kissing a lot,(with the help of some of my amazing Fun Advice friends) How do I get him a little aroused? Where should I let him touch me? What if he gets carried away? And.. where should I touch him?
I am so sorry to have offended you. It's just that the brain is hardwired with neurotransmitters that most often influence behavior. Like when you need to poop or something your brain lets you know and you go poop. You feel better after right? Same with eating, drinking and so on. It is natural to want to fulfill sexual desire as well. Exciting such desires will eventually lead to acting on them. I'm not saying that you will or he will...but if the cards are in the deck they might get played. If one person cares for another and decides to enter into more than platonic relationship isn't it plausible that one or both parties may at some point become aroused to a point where they might want to...well. It is good that you would like to retain your purity. There are people in this world who take serious vows of chastity. Temptation is a beast!!! Don't think that everyone else thinks exactly the way you do. Besides, if he likes you as much as you think he does and you want to start touching and whatnot don't you think the arousal you are aiming for is sexual. I have been where you are. You must live your life as you see fit. Most people don't end up with the person they cared for in their youth. Are you prepared to begin the end of a promising relationship. Anyone over 25 (with any sense) will tell you not to get seriously involved at a young age. Oh to be so young...and well I don't have to say it. If you have never had your heart broken heed my warning. Slow down. At least wait until you feel you are old enough.
Hahaha this is the cutest thing ever. Tell him that you wanna play a game and you each have to kiss for 10 seconds and if you don't stop kissing, you lose. Guarantee he won't be able to stop :) If he does, just keep kissing him anyway.
Let him touch your leg or your waist, he will probably be too shy to touch you any where else, but if he isn't then stop him from touching you anywhere you don't want to be touched. It's up to you where you want the boundaries to lie. Touch him on his thigh :)
If he gets carried away then just stop kissing him lol.
My advice is to take full control of the moment. You know how far you want to go and where you don't want to go. Guys like it when a girls takes the lead in these types of moments. So already right there you have head start. I would recommend kissing his ear and his neck just a little and then stopping. It will drive him nuts and leave him wanting more. It's good advice for you to guide his hands if they happen to wonder which they probably will.
So overall just remember to be in control of the moment.
excuuuuuuuuuuuuse me! but I am not naïve! you don't know anything about him or me. we don't need another f****** judge of the court of what you think people are! kissing doesn't always lead to sex you arrogant s***. he's too young and i'm too young and he knows it! i'm saving myself because I want to wait for the right time and age! "why date this guy"? I love him, he's kind, crazy, sensitive, and he's everything I need. so don't you dar eask me anything like that again you judgemental p****!
Apology accepted.. I just get annoyed when people judge me when they don't even know me. anyway im 12 he's 13. i'm allowed to be in a serious relationship, you are never too young for true love and yes I have had my heart broken already which isn't at all pleasant. I do feel I am old enough. the arousal was just jokingly not meant to be serious btw. I don't wanna have sex anyway. it's icky :P
You are naive. Kissing leads to sex. I was a virgin once. He is going to continue to badger you for sex until you cave or he is going to find someone to have sex with if you won't. If you are saving yourself...why date this guy. You should be friends.
I'd like to add if you want to keep kissing but you don't want him touching you a certain place you just take your hand and gently guide his hand some place else(:
oh! also.. I am with friends. he wouldn't cheat on me, I wouldn't cheat on him. he even said he didn't want to have sex till he was 18. and so do I...
You are very cute. Young lady just be casual and do not care about so many things. The choice is yours if you can control yourself.
well..the game sounds like a good idea...touch him where you feel comfortable...and let him touch you where he feels comfortable.
don't ever b***** judge me! >:(