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My fieance's ex girlfriend is bugging him telling him that she loves him and wants him to leave me and come back to her.. He has told many times that he doesn't want to be with her.. She still will not leave him alone. He is thinking about going over to her house and telling her that he does not love her and never will.. I am worried about him seeing her..Is this a stupid feeling or should I be worried about him seeing her again??
Ok, I was in this very same situation, and I was the ex. Sorry to say, but you sound so much like my ex's girlfriend. She was so naive about everything. She also swore my ex would NEVER cheat on her, when I know for a fact he was, and did! Why would your boyfriend cheat with just any girl, when he has his comfort zone (his ex) to fall back on.
He has to bring his father along in case she tried anything... seriously, what is she going to try? Why doesnt he bring YOU along?
My intentions were not to break my ex, and his girlfriend up, because in no way did I want him back. I wanted her to know what hes doing behind her back, but of course she ALWAYS believe his lies, and called ME the liar. If your boyfriends ex knows hes engaged to be married, why isnt she leaving him alone? Dont you find that kind of strange? Doesnt that make you wonder if maybe he really is seeing her, and telling her he wants to leave you for her? You seem very close-minded. Dont be a fool like my ex's girlfriend was, because any guy that tells you he has to go visit his exgirlfriend in another state to tell her in person that he doesnt want to go back out with her, would be raising all kinds of red flags to me! All I can say is, you need to open your eyes, because you are being very naive! If you let him go visit her, then his ex has every right to keep bugging you both. (by the way, my ex's girlfriend FINALLY saw the truth, and is no longer with him)
You said you dont want to take advice from someone that would be with someone that had another girl? I dont think you understood what I said. I didnt want MY ex back, I told you that! He had a girlfriend, but he still wanted me! I was the one telling her everything he was doing behind her back. It was all the truth!
Not to stir up anything but, I just find it odd that after 4 long years, she is still bothering him. That just doesnt make any sense. I mean when someone doesnt talk to you for that long, wouldnt you eventually just leave them alone? He has to be in contact with her for her to be so persistent. Think about it. I stopped talking to my ex, but he would ALWAYS do something, anything to get me to talk to him. Whether it would be to stop by my house, or IM me online. Then when I would tell his girlfriend, she would tell me it was all in my dreams, and that he would NEVER do that, because he loved her, and he hated me.
I told her that if I see she comes anywhere near my man I am going to kick her teeth down her throut... she tell me stipid stuff like he wants to leave me for her.. And that he wants her to come to ny to see him in march.. which I now is a lie because if he wanted to cheat that bad. He could get a girl here in a heart beat... he would never cheat on me because he loves me or why else would he ask me to marry him.. thanks for the advice it really helped I talked to him about why he wanted to go to her house he said because he wanted to tell her in person that there is now way he going back out with her. he said he would be going alone he was going to take his father as a witness if she tried anything...
if I were you id kick her fckn a55!!! but thats just me iam insanley jeoluse any girl that even looks my bfs way I wana pummle! but hes the same way and thats the way we are we both agree were jeoluse but it works for us. the only way to get it threw her head is to kick it lol but iagree with angel theres no reason he shud be pickn up the ph let alone going to her house tell him to ignore her and u shud tell her how you feel or show her if you were me. id gladley do it for you lol I hate b1tches like that that acknowledge the guy has some one but still comes a runnign like a dog in heat
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I now this girl well she has always wanted him.. He is not going to visit her anymore we got it all fixed but he has to go to Illinio because that is where his father lives.. I trust him and he would leave me before he cheats on me.. I dont think I want to take advice from someone that would be with someone that you now had another girl.. no offense.. Well he is not going anymore. He was thinking about it but decided that he would just text her instead.. Do you really think that I would let my fieance got to his ex girlfriends house in another state... I would beat him in a coma first..
okay she is in him home town and when he goes back there she sees him and it brings up old feelings.. We got it sorted out.. she told me that it was all her and everything. It is my problem so I am have to deal with it. but I am not going to leave him because someone starting something with us. I trust him there is no reason for me not too. I mean we both use eachother phones so it is not like he is texting her or anything I mean he tells me everything...
I also now that she pulled the same crap will all his past girlfriends.. I now this because I talk to them all. They said after they left him, she laughed in there faces and said that it was all a lie.. He dated her back when he was 18, he is now 22 and she still is not leaving him alone.. I LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES ME.. his cousin ever told me that all he does is talk about me and he never lies to his cousin...
There is NO reason why he has to go to her house to tell her he doesnt love her! He can just tell her via phone, email, or text! How does she contact him, and why does he even give her the time of day? You have to wonder about that. If I were you, I wouldnt leave him out of my sight.
okay for one she lives in illinio and I live in new york.. Another he texted her and tell her that he does not love her and now she is starting with me..
But thanks anyway for the advice..
