Am I a user or am I innocent?

*You say: "Ok i am going out with guy #1 for 8 months. I really like him n i may love him.

**Answer: You definitely do not love him since you are wanting to go out with another guy. And you are not acting like you like him much, since you are flirting with #2 behind his back and wanting to go out with him. If you break up now, you may [may] be able to be friends down the line [after he heals a bit]. If he catches you lying–you'll lose a boyfriend and a friend.

You say: "There is so much intense attraction between us its unreal. guy #2 and i know how much we want to go out but we can't b\c that would be cheating on guy#1. *Yes, it absolutely would be–and in back of boy #2's mind, he's always know you cheated on one, and he wouldn't trust you much either.

You say: "and b\c we dont want to let go of our friendship and b\c i know this is insane but i cud see us actually spending the rest of our lives together… and we talk about i all the time. i am falling In love with guy #2, which is a whole lot different from love." *Answer: Yes, it will change your friendship. No, you are fast falling in 'lust.' Love is what's still there to be built upon when lust has burned itself out.

*You say: "I told my best girlfriend about this(we have been friends for forever) and she says i need to dump guy #1. Answer: Hold onto this friend. She's honest and not just a 'tell you what you want to hear, friend."

You say: "I can't because i love spending time with him and he is so much fun. i kind of think that high school is um not that like serious and that i love going out with guy#1 and hanging out and being with him. *Answer: It's probably serious to him and you are being selfish and not thinking of consequences–just thinking of what you want.

• You say: She [your girlfriend] says hes falling in love with me and that i am leading him on. **Answer: Again, she's being honest and you are not. You ARE leading him on.

You say: "She has made me feel like a total bitch." *No. It's your un-honest actions and guilt making you feel this way.

*You say: "should i just let my gf make me feel this way and dump guy#1 and be miserable?"

**Answer: She's not making you feel this way, your not-honest actions are. She's the best thing you've got going in your life right now. Don't lose her, because I have a feeling #1 and #2 aren't going to last a long time. And girlfriends are gold and can last forever.

Get real and get truthful

Blessings and good luck