'im afraid cuz of our religion its very important to bleed '
you realize that nothing in your religion says you must bleed? (lemme take a wild guess, muslim?). It's in your culture. And I wont comment on that. Now, look at it this way, not much you can do either way. Unless you plan on inflicting some sort of wound on yourself, if you bleed, then you bleed. If you dont, then you dont. You cant do much about it either way. Well, I dont actually know if there's a way to tell if someone is a virgin. Usually one is tight, but that isnt a guarantee. And yes, most people are nervous and afraid before their first time. Perfectly normal. And until it happens, you wont understand what I'm getting at, but it really will be fine. You'll see. It isnt as bad as people make it out to be.
It's okay to feel nervous. It's okay to feel afraid. If you don't feel you are ready to have sex, then don't. This has to be your choice. These days a lot of girls break their hymen when they are young. Sports, gymnastics, horse riding, even just playing as a child can break it. Your boyfriend should trust you. He will probably know if you have had sex before. The same as when you do anything for the first time you won't be a natural. Don't stress too much about it. Explain to your boyfriend why you are stressed and he should understand. Best of luck and congrats on getting married soon :)
Yes i mean s#x, im afraid cuz of our religion its very important to bleed for the first time but i know that there are girls who may not cuz they'r not virgins,or bcuz of accidents, or elastic hymen and many other things. Even i know im a virgin and my bf trusts me i still stressed abt it cuz im getting married soon im too afraid of it. Would he be able to tell even if i wont bleed that im a virgn gosh i act like a little girl i feel ready sometimes but i think im not does anyone had this feeling b4 having s#x
I assume you mean sx? Well, because of all the hype and what not. It's really not all that bad. Uncomfortable at most. And yeah, it might be a little awkward, but seriously, it's not this horrible thing that women must endure. Sx is quite enjoyable.