Last night, I went out with a friend and on our way back, we met one of our old highschool friends. I used to be pretty close with this guy but we haven't talked since we graduated so it's been four years since we talked.
Anyways, we got to talking and I found out he got kicked out of University after the first year and didn't go back to school. He told me, he had been working since leaving school and he had joined the Toronto film guild, worked his way up, and had recently worked on several of the recent film like Avengers and Robocop. I believe his position was assistant director? (can't remember anymore). I tell him he was pretty much living what I had always wanted before and told him I was planning to pursue this after I graduate with my degree. He tells me the only reason he was able to get in in the first place was because he had connections and he offered to help me get in, take my resume, recommend me, etc. He tells me to call him up soon as I get back (I'm leaving the country in August) and he will get me a job. But then he tells me, hours are long. Sometimes you will have to work 16-20 hours a day and you will pretty much disappear off the face of the earth for a while. And then he tells me it is even worst when you are involved in tv shows.
My problem is I'm in University still. Pretty much if I asked him for help and got it, I'd need to be done with school because of the hours. I have just one more year left before I graduate so I feel it'd be a waste to just drop out now. Would it be ... bad (for the lack of a better word) if I called him up after I graduate? What would you do? I had originally planned to go to college for film after I graduate from University to get a certificate and some experience, but this is just such a good opportunity out of nowhere!
My second problem is my relationship. Honestly, it is the most important thing to me. If I did take it, or if in the future I were to pursue this, I would be be working many hours a day, barely get to see my partner, not to mention the weeks that I'd disappear. He told me that was his problem as well, he and his long term girlfriend were really strained because of this. He, now, is taking a break from it. I definitely do not ever want to do anything that might end our relationship. What would you do?
Miss Janice, I haven't read the other replies so this is strictly what I think:
First and foremost please finish and get your degree. It would be a huge mistake to throw all your hard work away now. The most important thing about having a degree isn't necessarily what you have learned or know..............it proves your ability to "complete something" and finish what you started. That in itself is an asset in your favor when people consider you.
Second; I know this sounds great and is what you want, BUT, just because the guy "said" he can "get you In" so to speak means nothing. Nothing. Never ever count chickens before they hatch. If this guy is successful and really has connections then they will still be there AFTER you get your degree. Do you understand what I'm saying my friend? Nothing against this guy and not accusing him of anything, but you have to use wisdom and judgement to look out for yourself!! Don't rely on him. He might be just trying to impress you. (sorry if I'm wrong about it)............nonetheless.
Third: Your relationship. You folks are so very young and face challenges. Things will change as you get older but nothing can stop true love. Sometimes it grows together and sometimes apart then together again........or not. The main thing is to use your head and do what is best and right so you have no regrets.............a clear conscious is worth it's weight in gold and love............Find out what is "really" going on between the two of you and what taking a break is really about. Search what you two are about and what you both see in your future together.
Put ALL your goals in one basket so you can re-arrange them easier.
Oops hit enter. And you're definitely right about not relying on the guy. I had been planning before already to go back to college afterwards (more hands on) and get a certificate in film with a full time job. His offer just seemed like a nice short cut :) but you're right, I definitely should not rely on him. I had actually meant that my friend was having trouble with his girlfriend and they were taking a break because of his job within the film guild. But you're right, nothing stops it if it's true.
I think you should call the guy up when you get back, like you said you would. Explain to him that you're interested but you want to keep school as your #1 priority. He did say that he had to work up to the position he has now so I'm sure you would start out the same as well. Just ask if you could start out as part time... Try it out and see how it goes.
Thanks for your insight :) as always. am definitely going to finish my degree! After all those double shifts and pretty much sleeping in the library o,o I'd cry if I just threw that all away. I never actually thought of a degree that way though "the ability to complete something" and that definitely makes sense to me!
Thanks for understanding what I said..........I'm so proud of you looking for direction and having goals. I shouldn't have responded to the relationship part just yet cause I had I feeling I was wrong about something...........but I was on a roll..........:) I get that way sometimes. (I'm doin better)...........:)
There aren't any part-time positions unfortunately. I would totally not care if I started out low, but the hours are the same, you'd have to be on set the whole time, and then working off as well. But yea, I think I will call him up haha, as awkward as I might feel.
Ohh I see. Just call him up so he knows you're serious about it and you're still interested. Just say that you really want to continue pursuing your degree.
And then if he's still willing to help me a year later, I can try it out and then if it doesn't work out with my partner I can always quit.